condescendingness condescendingness /ˌkɒndɪˈsɛndɪŋnɪs/

noun

1. Affability to your inferiors and temporary disregard for differences of position or rank  ( condescendingness , condescension )
   affability to your inferiors and temporary disregard for differences of position or rank
    The queen's condescension was intended to make us feel comfortable
   the queen's condescension was intended to make us feel comfortable