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<h2> Of Dispatch </h2>
<p>AFFECTED dispatch is one of the most dangerous things to business that can
be. It is like that, which the physicians call predigestion, or hasty
digestion; which is sure to fill the body full of crudities, and secret
seeds of diseases. Therefore measure not dispatch, by the times of
sitting, but by the advancement of the business. And as in races it is not
the large stride or high lift that makes the speed; so in business, the
keeping close to the matter, and not taking of it too much at once,
procureth dispatch. It is the care of some, only to come off speedily for
the time; or to contrive some false periods of business, because they may
seem men of dispatch. But it is one thing, to abbreviate by contracting,
another by cutting off. And business so handled, at several sittings or
meetings, goeth commonly backward and forward in an unsteady manner. I
knew a wise man that had it for a byword, when he saw men hasten to a
conclusion, Stay a little, that we may make an end the sooner.</p>
<p>On the other side, true dispatch is a rich thing. For time is the measure
of business, as money is of wares; and business is bought at a dear hand,
where there is small dispatch. The Spartans and Spaniards have been noted
to be of small dispatch; Mi venga la muerte de Spagna; Let my death come
from Spain; for then it will be sure to be long in coming.</p>
<p>Give good hearing to those, that give the first information in business;
and rather direct them in the beginning, than interrupt them in the
continuance of their speeches; for he that is put out of his own order,
will go forward and backward, and be more tedious, while he waits upon his
memory, than he could have been, if he had gone on in his own course. But
sometimes it is seen, that the moderator is more troublesome, than the
actor.</p>
<p>Iterations are commonly loss of time. But there is no such gain of time,
as to iterate often the state of the question; for it chaseth away many a
frivolous speech, as it is coming forth. Long and curious speeches, are as
fit for dispatch, as a robe or mantle, with a long train, is for race.
Prefaces and passages, and excusations, and other speeches of reference to
the person, are great wastes of time; and though they seem to proceed of
modesty, they are bravery. Yet beware of being too material, when there is
any impediment or obstruction in men's wills; for pre-occupation of mind
ever requireth preface of speech; like a fomentation to make the unguent
enter.</p>
<p>Above all things, order, and distribution, and singling out of parts, is
the life of dispatch; so as the distribution be not too subtle: for he
that doth not divide, will never enter well into business; and he that
divideth too much, will never come out of it clearly. To choose time, is
to save time; and an unseasonable motion, is but beating the air. There be
three parts of business; the preparation, the debate or examination, and
the perfection. Whereof, if you look for dispatch, let the middle only be
the work of many, and the first and last the work of few. The proceeding
upon somewhat conceived in writing, doth for the most part facilitate
dispatch: for though it should be wholly rejected, yet that negative is
more pregnant of direction, than an indefinite; as ashes are more
generative than dust.</p>
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<h2> Of Seeming Wise </h2>
<p>IT HATH been an opinion, that the French are wiser than they seem, and the
Spaniards seem wiser than they are. But howsoever it be between nations,
certainly it is so between man and man. For as the Apostle saith of
godliness, Having a show of godliness, but denying the power thereof; so
certainly there are, in point of wisdom and sufficiently, that do nothing
or little very solemnly: magno conatu nugas. It is a ridiculous thing, and
fit for a satire to persons of judgment, to see what shifts these
formalists have, and what prospectives to make superficies to seem body,
that hath depth and bulk. Some are so close and reserved, as they will not
show their wares, but by a dark light; and seem always to keep back
somewhat; and when they know within themselves, they speak of that they do
not well know, would nevertheless seem to others, to know of that which
they may not well speak. Some help themselves with countenance and
gesture, and are wise by signs; as Cicero saith of Piso, that when he
answered him, he fetched one of his brows up to his forehead, and bent the
other down to his chin; Respondes, altero ad frontem sublato, altero ad
mentum depresso supercilio, crudelitatem tibi non placere. Some think to
bear it by speaking a great word, and being peremptory; and go on, and
take by admittance, that which they cannot make good. Some, whatsoever is
beyond their reach, will seem to despise, or make light of it, as
impertinent or curious; and so would have their ignorance seem judgment.
Some are never without a difference, and commonly by amusing men with a
subtilty, blanch the matter; of whom A. Gellius saith, Hominem delirum,
qui verborum minutiis rerum frangit pondera. Of which kind also, Plato, in
his Protagoras, bringeth in Prodius in scorn, and maketh him make a
speech, that consisteth of distinction from the beginning to the end.
Generally, such men in all deliberations find ease to be of the negative
side, and affect a credit to object and foretell difficulties; for when
propositions are denied, there is an end of them; but if they be allowed,
it requireth a new work; which false point of wisdom is the bane of
business. To conclude, there is no decaying merchant, or inward beggar,
hath so many tricks to uphold the credit of their wealth, as these empty
persons have, to maintain the credit of their sufficiency. Seeming wise
men may make shift to get opinion; but let no man choose them for
employment; for certainly you were better take for business, a man
somewhat absurd, than over-formal.</p>
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<h2> Of Friendship </h2>
<p>IT HAD been hard for him that spake it to have put more truth and untruth
together in few words, than in that speech, Whatsoever is delighted in
solitude, is either a wild beast or a god. For it is most true, that a
natural and secret hatred, and aversation towards society, in any man,
hath somewhat of the savage beast; but it is most untrue, that it should
have any character at all, of the divine nature; except it proceed, not
out of a pleasure in solitude, but out of a love and desire to sequester a
man's self, for a higher conversation: such as is found to have been
falsely and feignedly in some of the heathen; as Epimenides the Candian,
Numa the Roman, Empedocles the Sicilian, and Apollonius of Tyana; and
truly and really, in divers of the ancient hermits and holy fathers of the
church. But little do men perceive what solitude is, and how far it
extendeth. For a crowd is not company; and faces are but a gallery of
pictures; and talk but a tinkling cymbal, where there is no love. The
Latin adage meeteth with it a little: Magna civitas, magna solitudo;
because in a great town friends are scattered; so that there is not that
fellowship, for the most part, which is in less neighborhoods. But we may
go further, and affirm most truly, that it is a mere and miserable
solitude to want true friends; without which the world is but a
wilderness; and even in this sense also of solitude, whosoever in the
frame of his nature and affections, is unfit for friendship, he taketh it
of the beast, and not from humanity.</p>
<p>A principal fruit of friendship, is the ease and discharge of the fulness
and swellings of the heart, which passions of all kinds do cause and
induce. We know diseases of stoppings, and suffocations, are the most
dangerous in the body; and it is not much otherwise in the mind; you may
take sarza to open the liver, steel to open the spleen, flowers of sulphur
for the lungs, castoreum for the brain; but no receipt openeth the heart,
but a true friend; to whom you may impart griefs, joys, fears, hopes,
suspicions, counsels, and whatsoever lieth upon the heart to oppress it,
in a kind of civil shrift or confession.</p>
<p>It is a strange thing to observe, how high a rate great kings and monarchs
do set upon this fruit of friendship, whereof we speak: so great, as they
purchase it, many times, at the hazard of their own safety and greatness.
For princes, in regard of the distance of their fortune from that of their
subjects and servants, cannot gather this fruit, except (to make
themselves capable thereof) they raise some persons to be, as it were,
companions and almost equals to themselves, which many times sorteth to
inconvenience. The modern languages give unto such persons the name of
favorites, or privadoes; as if it were matter of grace, or conversation.
But the Roman name attaineth the true use and cause thereof, naming them
participes curarum; for it is that which tieth the knot. And we see
plainly that this hath been done, not by weak and passionate princes only,
but by the wisest and most politic that ever reigned; who have oftentimes
joined to themselves some of their servants; whom both themselves have
called friends, and allowed other likewise to call them in the same
manner; using the word which is received between private men.</p>
<p>L. Sylla, when he commanded Rome, raised Pompey (after surnamed the Great)
to that height, that Pompey vaunted himself for Sylla's overmatch. For
when he had carried the consulship for a friend of his, against the
pursuit of Sylla, and that Sylla did a little resent thereat, and began to
speak great, Pompey turned upon him again, and in effect bade him be
quiet; for that more men adored the sun rising, than the sun setting. With
Julius Caesar, Decimus Brutus had obtained that interest as he set him
down in his testament, for heir in remainder, after his nephew. And this
was the man that had power with him, to draw him forth to his death. For
when Caesar would have discharged the senate, in regard of some ill
presages, and specially a dream of Calpurnia; this man lifted him gently
by the arm out of his chair, telling him he hoped he would not dismiss the
senate, till his wife had dreamt a better dream. And it seemeth his favor
was so great, as Antonius, in a letter which is recited verbatim in one of
Cicero's Philippics, calleth him venefica, witch; as if he had enchanted
Caesar. Augustus raised Agrippa (though of mean birth) to that height, as
when he consulted with Maecenas, about the marriage of his daughter Julia,
Maecenas took the liberty to tell him, that he must either marry his
daughter to Agrippa, or take away his life; there was no third way, he had
made him so great. With Tiberius Caesar, Sejanus had ascended to that
height, as they two were termed, and reckoned, as a pair of friends.
Tiberius in a letter to him saith, Haec pro amicitia nostra non occultavi;
and the whole senate dedicated an altar to Friendship, as to a goddess, in
respect of the great dearness of friendship, between them two. The like,
or more, was between Septimius Severus and Plautianus. For he forced his
eldest son to marry the daughter of Plautianus; and would often maintain
Plautianus, in doing affronts to his son; and did write also in a letter
to the senate, by these words: I love the man so well, as I wish he may
over-live me. Now if these princes had been as a Trajan, or a Marcus
Aurelius, a man might have thought that this had proceeded of an abundant
goodness of nature; but being men so wise, of such strength and severity
of mind, and so extreme lovers of themselves, as all these were, it
proveth most plainly that they found their own felicity (though as great
as ever happened to mortal men) but as an half piece, except they mought
have a friend, to make it entire; and yet, which is more, they were
princes that had wives, sons, nephews; and yet all these could not supply
the comfort of friendship.</p>
<p>It is not to be forgotten, what Comineus observeth of his first master,
Duke Charles the Hardy, namely, that he would communicate his secrets with
none; and least of all, those secrets which troubled him most. Whereupon
he goeth on, and saith that towards his latter time, that closeness did
impair, and a little perish his understanding. Surely Comineus mought have
made the same judgment also, if it had pleased him, of his second master,
Lewis the Eleventh, whose closeness was indeed his tormentor. The parable
of Pythagoras is dark, but true; Cor ne edito; Eat not the heart.
Certainly, if a man would give it a hard phrase, those that want friends,
to open themselves unto, are carnnibals of their own hearts. But one thing
is most admirable (wherewith I will conclude this first fruit of
friendship), which is, that this communicating of a man's self to his
friend, works two contrary effects; for it redoubleth joys, and cutteth
griefs in halves. For there is no man, that imparteth his joys to his
friend, but he joyeth the more; and no man that imparteth his griefs to
his friend, but he grieveth the less. So that it is in truth, of operation
upon a man's mind, of like virtue as the alchemists use to attribute to
their stone, for man's body; that it worketh all contrary effects, but
still to the good and benefit of nature. But yet without praying in aid of
alchemists, there is a manifest image of this, in the ordinary course of
nature. For in bodies, union strengtheneth and cherisheth any natural
action; and on the other side, weakeneth and dulleth any violent
impression: and even so it is of minds.</p>
<p>The second fruit of friendship, is healthful and sovereign for the
understanding, as the first is for the affections. For friendship maketh
indeed a fair day in the affections, from storm and tempests; but it
maketh daylight in the understanding, out of darkness, and confusion of
thoughts. Neither is this to be understood only of faithful counsel, which
a man receiveth from his friend; but before you come to that, certain it
is, that whosoever hath his mind fraught with many thoughts, his wits and
understanding do clarify and break up, in the communicating and
discoursing with another; he tosseth his thoughts more easily; he
marshalleth them more orderly, he seeth how they look when they are turned
into words: finally, he waxeth wiser than himself; and that more by an
hour's discourse, than by a day's meditation. It was well said by
Themistocles, to the king of Persia, That speech was like cloth of Arras,
opened and put abroad; whereby the imagery doth appear in figure; whereas
in thoughts they lie but as in packs. Neither is this second fruit of
friendship, in opening the understanding, restrained only to such friends
as are able to give a man counsel; (they indeed are best;) but even
without that, a man learneth of himself, and bringeth his own thoughts to
light, and whetteth his wits as against a stone, which itself cuts not. In
a word, a man were better relate himself to a statua, or picture, than to
suffer his thoughts to pass in smother.</p>
<p>Add now, to make this second fruit of friendship complete, that other
point, which lieth more open, and falleth within vulgar observation; which
is faithful counsel from a friend. Heraclitus saith well in one of his
enigmas, Dry light is ever the best. And certain it is, that the light
that a man receiveth by counsel from another, is drier and purer, than
that which cometh from his own understanding and judgment; which is ever
infused, and drenched, in his affections and customs. So as there is as
much difference between the counsel, that a friend giveth, and that a man
giveth himself, as there is between the counsel of a friend, and of a
flatterer. For there is no such flatterer as is a man's self; and there is
no such remedy against flattery of a man's self, as the liberty of a
friend. Counsel is of two sorts: the one concerning manners, the other
concerning business. For the first, the best preservative to keep the mind
in health, is the faithful admonition of a friend. The calling of a man's
self to a strict account, is a medicine, sometime too piercing and
corrosive. Reading good books of morality, is a little flat and dead.
Observing our faults in others, is sometimes improper for our case. But
the best receipt (best, I say, to work, and best to take) is the
admonition of a friend. It is a strange thing to behold, what gross errors
and extreme absurdities many (especially of the greater sort) do commit,
for want of a friend to tell them of them; to the great damage both of
their fame and fortune: for, as St. James saith, they are as men that look
sometimes into a glass, and presently forget their own shape and favor. As
for business, a man may think, if he win, that two eyes see no more than
one; or that a gamester seeth always more than a looker-on; or that a man
in anger, is as wise as he that hath said over the four and twenty
letters; or that a musket may be shot off as well upon the arm, as upon a
rest; and such other fond and high imaginations, to think himself all in
all. But when all is done, the help of good counsel, is that which setteth
business straight. And if any man think that he will take counsel, but it
shall be by pieces; asking counsel in one business, of one man, and in
another business, of another man; it is well (that is to say, better,
perhaps, than if he asked none at all); but he runneth two dangers: one,
that he shall not be faithfully counselled; for it is a rare thing, except
it be from a perfect and entire friend, to have counsel given, but such as
shall be bowed and crooked to some ends, which he hath, that giveth it.
The other, that he shall have counsel given, hurtful and unsafe (though
with good meaning), and mixed partly of mischief and partly of remedy;
even as if you would call a physician, that is thought good for the cure
of the disease you complain of, but is unacquainted with your body; and
therefore may put you in way for a present cure, but overthroweth your
health in some other kind; and so cure the disease, and kill the patient.
But a friend that is wholly acquainted with a man's estate, will beware,
by furthering any present business, how he dasheth upon other
inconvenience. And therefore rest not upon scattered counsels; they will
rather distract and mislead, than settle and direct.</p>
<p>After these two noble fruits of friendship (peace in the affections, and
support of the judgment), followeth the last fruit; which is like the
pomegranate, full of many kernels; I mean aid, and bearing a part, in all
actions and occasions. Here the best way to represent to life the manifold
use of friendship, is to cast and see how many things there are, which a
man cannot do himself; and then it will appear, that it was a sparing
speech of the ancients, to say, that a friend is another himself; for that
a friend is far more than himself. Men have their time, and die many
times, in desire of some things which they principally take to heart; the
bestowing of a child, the finishing of a work, or the like. If a man have
a true friend, he may rest almost secure that the care of those things
will continue after him. So that a man hath, as it were, two lives in his
desires. A man hath a body, and that body is confined to a place; but
where friendship is, all offices of life are as it were granted to him,
and his deputy. For he may exercise them by his friend. How many things
are there which a man cannot, with any face or comeliness, say or do
himself? A man can scarce allege his own merits with modesty, much less
extol them; a man cannot sometimes brook to supplicate or beg; and a
number of the like. But all these things are graceful, in a friend's
mouth, which are blushing in a man's own. So again, a man's person hath
many proper relations, which he cannot put off. A man cannot speak to his
son but as a father; to his wife but as a husband; to his enemy but upon
terms: whereas a friend may speak as the case requires, and not as it
sorteth with the person. But to enumerate these things were endless; I
have given the rule, where a man cannot fitly play his own part; if he
have not a friend, he may quit the stage.</p>
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<h2> Of Expense </h2>
<p>RICHES are for spending, and spending for honor and good actions.
Therefore extraordinary expense must be limited by the worth of the
occasion; for voluntary undoing, may be as well for a man's country, as
for the kingdom of heaven. But ordinary expense, ought to be limited by a
man's estate; and governed with such regard, as it be within his compass;
and not subject to deceit and abuse of servants; and ordered to the best
show, that the bills may be less than the estimation abroad. Certainly, if
a man will keep but of even hand, his ordinary expenses ought to be but to
the half of his receipts; and if he think to wax rich, but to the third
part. It is no baseness, for the greatest to descend and look into their
own estate. Some forbear it, not upon negligence alone, but doubting to
bring themselves into melancholy, in respect they shall find it broken.
But wounds cannot be cured without searching. He that cannot look into his
own estate at all, had need both choose well those whom he employeth, and
change them often; for new are more timorous and less subtle. He that can
look into his estate but seldom, it behooveth him to turn all to
certainties. A man had need, if he be plentiful in some kind of expense,
to be as saving again in some other. As if he be plentiful in diet, to be
saving in apparel; if he be plentiful in the hall, to be saving in the
stable; and the like. For he that is plentiful in expenses of all kinds,
will hardly be preserved from decay. In clearing of a man's estate, he may
as well hurt himself in being too sudden, as in letting it run on too
long. For hasty selling, is commonly as disadvantageable as interest.
Besides, he that clears at once will relapse; for finding himself out of
straits, he will revert to his custom: but he that cleareth by degrees,
induceth a habit of frugality, and gaineth as well upon his mind, as upon
his estate. Certainly, who hath a state to repair, may not despise small
things; and commonly it is less dishonorable, to abridge petty charges,
than to stoop to petty gettings. A man ought warily to begin charges which
once begun will continue; but in matters that return not, he may be more
magnificent.</p>
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