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<h1> MARRIAGE, <br/> <br/> AS IT WAS, AS IT IS, <br/> <br/> AND AS IT SHOULD BE </h1>
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<h3> A PLEA FOR REFORM </h3>
<h2> By Annie Besant </h2>
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Second Edition <br/> <br/> London: Freethought Publishing Company
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1882.
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<p><b>CONTENTS</b></p>
<p><SPAN href="#link2H_4_0001"> <b>MARRIAGE: AS IT WAS, AS IT IS, AND AS IT
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<p><SPAN href="#link2H_4_0002"> I. MARRIAGE </SPAN></p>
<p><SPAN href="#link2H_4_0003"> II. DIVORCE. </SPAN></p>
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<h2> MARRIAGE: AS IT WAS, AS IT IS, AND AS IT SHOULD BE. </h2>
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"<i>Either all human beings have equal rights, or none have any</i>."
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—Condorcet.
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<h2> I. MARRIAGE </h2>
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<span class="dropcap" style="font-size: 4.00em">T</span>he recognition of
human rights may be said to be of modern growth, and even yet they are but
very imperfectly understood. Liberty used to be regarded as a privilege
bestowed, instead of as an inherent right; rights of classes have often
been claimed: right to rule, right to tax, right to punish, all these have
been argued for and maintained by force; but these are not rights, they
are only wrongs veiled as legal rights. Jean Jacques Rousseau struck a new
note when he cried: "Men are born free;" free by birthright was a new
thought, when declared as a universal inheritance, and this "gospel of
Jean Jacques Rousseau" dawned on the world as the sun-rising of a glorious
day—a day of human liberty, unrestrained by class. In 1789 the
doctrine of the "Rights of Man" received its first European sanction by
law; in the August of that year the National Assembly of France
proclaimed: "Men are born, and remain, free and equal in rights.... The
aim of political association is the conservation of the natural and
imprescriptible rights of man; these rights are—liberty, property,
safety, and resistance of tyranny." During savage and semi-civilised ages
these "imprescriptible rights" are never dreamed of as existing; brute
force is king; might is the only right, and the strong arm is the only
argument whose logic meets with general recognition. In warlike tribes
fair equality is found, and the chief is only <i>primus inter pares</i>;
but when the nomadic tribe settles down into an agricultural community,
when the habit of bearing arms ceases to be universal, when wealth begins
to accumulate, and the village or town offers attractions for pillage,
then strength becomes at once a terror and a possible defence. The weak
obey some powerful neighbour partly because they cannot resist, and partly
because they desire, by their submission, to gain a strong protection
against their enemies. They submit to the exactions of one that they may
be shielded from the tyranny of many, and yield up their natural liberty
to some extent to preserve themselves from being entirely enslaved. Very
slowly do they learn that the union of many individually feeble is
stronger than a few powerful, isolated tyrants, and gradually law takes
the place of despotic will; gradually the feeling of self-respect, of
independence, of love of liberty, grows, until at last man claims freedom
as of right, and denies the authority of any to rule him without his own
consent.</p>
<p>Thus the Rights of Man have become an accepted doctrine, but,
unfortunately, they are only rights of <i>man,</i> in the exclusive sense
of the word. They are sexual, and not human rights, and until they become
human rights, society will never rest on a sure, because just, foundation.
Women, as well as men, "are born and remain free and equal in rights;"
women, as well as men, have "natural and imprescriptible rights;" for
women, as well as for men, "these rights are—liberty, property,
safety, and resistance of tyranny." Of these rights only crime should
deprive them, just as by crime men also are deprived of them; to deny
these rights to women, is either to deny them to humanity <i>qua</i>
humanity, or to deny that women form a part of humanity; if women's rights
are denied, men's rights have no logical basis, no claim to respect; then
tyranny ceases to be a crime, slavery is no longer a scandal; "either all
human beings have equal rights, or none have any."</p>
<p>Naturally, in the savage state, women shared the fate of the physically
weak, not only because, as a rule, they are smaller-framed and less
muscular than their male comrades, but also because the bearing and
suckling of children is a drain on their physical resources from which men
are exempt. Hence she has suffered from "the right of the strongest," even
more than has man, and her exclusion from all political life has prevented
the redressal which man has wrought out for himself; while claiming
freedom for himself he has not loosened her chains, and while striking
down his own tyrants, he has maintained his personal tyranny in the home.
Nor has this generally been done by deliberate intention: it is rather the
survival of the old system, which has only been abolished so slowly as
regards men. Mrs. Mill writes: "That those who were physically weaker
should have been made legally inferior, is quite conformable to the mode
in which the world has been governed. Until very lately, the rule of
physical strength was the general law of human affairs. Throughout
history, the nations, races, classes, which found themselves strongest,
either in muscles, in riches, or in military discipline, have conquered
and held in subjection the rest. If, even in the most improved nations,
the law of the sword is at last discountenanced as unworthy, it is only
since the calumniated eighteenth century. Wars of conquest have only
ceased since democratic revolutions began. The world is very young, and
has only just begun to cast off injustice. It is only now getting rid of
negro slavery. It is only now getting rid of monarchical despotism. It is
only now getting rid of hereditary feudal nobility. It is only now getting
rid of disabilities on the ground of religion. It is only beginning to
treat any <i>men</i> as citizens, except the rich and a favoured portion
of the middle class. Can we wonder that it has not yet done as much for
women?" ("Enfranchisement of Women," Mrs. Mill. In J. S. Mill's
"Discussions and Dissertations," Vol. II., page 421.) The difference
between men and women in all civil rights is, however, with few, although
important, exceptions, confined to married women; i.e., women in relation
with men. Unmarried women of all ages suffer under comparatively few
disabilities; it is marriage which brings with it the weight of injustice
and of legal degradation.</p>
<p>In savage times marriage was a matter either of force, fraud, or purchase.
Women were merchandise, by the sale of whom their male relatives profited,
or they were captives in war, the spoil of the conqueror, or they were
stolen away from the paternal home. In all cases, however, the possession
once obtained, they became the property of the men who married them, and
the husband was their "lord," their "master." In the old Hebrew books—still
accounted sacred by Jews and Christians—the wife is regarded as the
property of her husband. A man may "sell his daughter to be a maidservant"
i.e., a concubine, as is shown by the following verse (Ex. xxi. 7), and
Jacob served seven years for each of his wives, Leah and Rachel; his other
two wives were his by gift, and were rather concubines than recognised
wives, their children counting to their mistresses. If a Hebrew conquered
his enemies, and saw "among the captives a beautiful woman, and hast a
desire unto her, that thou wouldst have her to thy wife," he might take
her home, and become her husband, "and she shall be thy wife" (Deut. xxi
10-14). After the destruction of Benjamin, as related in Judges xx., it
was arranged that the survivors should possess themselves of women as
wives by force and fraud: "Life in wait in the vineyards, and see and
behold if the daughters of Shiloh come out to dance in dances, then come
ye out of the vineyards, and catch you every man his wife.... And the
children of Benjamin did so, and took their wives according to their
number, of them that danced, whom they caught" (Judges xxi. 20, 21, 23).
The same plan was adopted by the Romans in their earliest days, when they
needed wives. Romulus invited the people of the Sabines and the
neighbouring towns to see some public games, and in the midst of the show
the Romans rushed in and carried off all the marriageable maidens they
could lay hands on (Liddell's "History of Rome," p. 20). These instances
may be objected to as legendary, but they are faithful pictures of the
rough wooing of early times. Among some barbarous nations the winning of a
bride is still harsher: the bridegroom rushes into the father's house
knocks the maiden down, picks up her senseless body, flings it over his
shoulder, and runs for his life; he is pursued by the youth of the
village, pelted with stones, sticks, &c., and has to win his wife by
sheer strength and swiftness. In some tribes this is a mere marriage
ceremony, a survival from the time when the fight was a real one, and
amongst ourselves the slipper thrown after the departing bridegroom and
bride is a direct descendant of the heavier missiles thrown with deadly
intent thousands of years ago by our remote ancestors. Amongst many
semi-barbarous nations the wives are still bought; in some parts of Africa
the wooer pays a certain number of cows for his bride; in other places,
money or goods are given in exchange. The point to be noted is that the
wife is literally taken by force, or bought; she is not free to choose her
husband; she does not give herself to him; she is a piece of property,
handed over by her original owner—her father—to her new owner—her
husband—in exchange for certain solid money or money's worth; hence
she becomes the property of the man who has paid for her.</p>
<p>In an admirable article in the <i>Westminster Review</i> for April, 1876,
the following striking passage is to be found:</p>
<p>"As Aristotle long since remarked, among savages women and slaves hold the
same rank. Women are bought primarily as slaves, to drudge and toil for
their masters, whilst their function as wives is secondary and
subordinate. It is more right to say of polygamous people that their
slaves are also their wives, than to say that their wives are slaves. They
are purchased as slaves, they work as slaves, and they live as slaves.
'The history of uncultivated nations,' it has been said, 'uniformly
represents the women as in-a state of abject slavery, from which they
slowly emerge as civilisation advances.' In Canada a strap, a kettle, and
a faggot are placed in the new bride's cabin, to indicate that it will be
henceforth her duty to carry burdens, dress food, and procure wood for her
husband. In Circassia it is the women who till and manure the ground, and
in parts of China they follow the plough. A Moorish wife digs and sows and
reaps the corn, and an Arabian wife feeds and cleans and saddles her
master's horse. Indeed, the sole business of Bedouin wives is to cook and
work, and perform all the menial offices connected with tent-life.... From
the absolute power of a savage over his slaves flow all those rights over
a woman from which the marital rights of our own time are the genealogical
descendants.... A trace of it [purchase] is found in the following customs
of old English law:—'The woman at the church-door was given of her
father, or some other man of the next of her kin, into the hands of her
husband, and he laid down gold and silver for her upon the book, as though
he did buy her.'" This custom is still maintained in the Church ritual;
the priest asks: "Who giveth this woman to be married to this man?" and
when the man gives the ring to the priest, he gives money with it,
receiving back the ring to give the woman, but the money remaining, a
survival of the time when wives were literally bought.</p>
<p>By the old Roman laws, the married woman had no personal rights; she was
but the head slave in her husband's house, absolutely subject in all
things to her lord. As the Romans became civilised, these disabilities
were gradually removed. It is important to remember these facts, as these
are the origin of our own marriage laws, and our common law really grows
out of them.</p>
<p>One other point must be noticed, before dealing immediately with the
English marriage laws, and that is the influence exerted over them by
ecclesiastical Christianity.</p>
<p>The Old Testament expressly sanctions polygamy; but while the New
Testament does not proscribe it—except in the case of bishops and
deacons—ecclesiastical Christianity has generally been in favour of
monogamy; at the same time, both the New Testament and the Church have
insisted on the inferiority of the female sex; "the husband is the head of
the wife" (Eph. v. 23); "wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands"
(Col. iii. 18); "your women... are commanded to be under obedience" (1
Cor. xiv. 34); "ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands... even as
Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters ye are as long as
ye do well" (1 Pet. iii. 1, 6). The common law of England is quite in
accordance with this ancient Eastern teaching, and regards men as superior
to women; "Among the children of the purchaser, males take before females,
or, as our male lawgivers, have expressed it, the worthiest of blood shall
be preferred" ("Comm, on the Laws of England," J. Stephen, 7th ed. vol. i.
p. 402).</p>
<p>The feudal system did much, of course, to perpetuate the subjection of
women, it being to the interest of the lord paramount that the fiefs
should descend in the male line in those rough ages, when wars and civil
feuds were almost perpetual, it was inevitable that the sex with the
biggest body and strongest sinews should have the upper hand; the pity is
that English gentlemen to-day are content to allow the law to remain
unaltered, when the whole face of society has changed.</p>
<p>Let us now turn to the disabilities imposed upon women by marriage.</p>
<p>Blackstone lays down, in his world-famous "Commentaries on the Laws of
England," that the first of the "absolute rights of every Englishman" is
"the legal and uninterrupted enjoyment of his life, his limbs, his body,
his health, and his reputation" (9th ed., bk. 1, p. 129). The second right
is personal liberty, and he says: "the confinement of a person in anywise
is an imprisonment. So that the keeping; a man against his will in a
private house.... is an imprisonment" (Ibid, 136): The third is property,
"which consists in the free use and enjoyment of all his acquisitions,
without any control or diminution, save only by the laws of the land"
(Ibid, 138). A subordinate right, necessary for the enforcement of the
others, is "that of applying to the courts of justice for redress of
injuries." I shall proceed to show that a married woman is deprived of
these rights by the mere fact of her marriage.</p>
<p>In the first place, by marriage a woman loses her legal existence; the law
does not recognize her, excepting in some few cases, when it becomes
conscious of her existence in order to punish her for some crime or
misdemeanour. Black-stone says—and no subsequent legislation has in
any way modified his dictum: "By marriage the husband and wife are one
person in law; that is, the very being or legal existence of the woman is
suspended during the marriage, or at least is incorporated or consolidated
into that of the husband; under whose wing, protection, and <i>cover</i>,
she performs every thing; and is therefore called in our law-French a <i>feme
covert"</i> (p. 442). "Husband and wife are one person in law" (Comyn's
Digest, 5th ed., vol. ii., p. 208), and from this it follows that "by no
conveyance at the common law could the husband give an estate to his
wife;" that "a. husband cannot covenant or contract with his wife," even
for her own advantage, and that any prenuptial contract made with her as
to money she shall enjoy for her separate use after marriage, becomes void
as soon as she is married. All covenants for the wife's benefit must be
made with some one else, and the husband must covenant with some other man
or unmarried woman who acts as trustee for the wife. This is the
fundamental wrong from which all the others flow: "'Husband and wife are
one person,' and that one is the husband." The wife's body, her
reputation, are no longer her own. She can gain no legal redress for
injury, for the law does, not recognize her existence except under cover
of her husband's suit. In. some cases more modern legislation has so far
become conscious of her, as to protect her against her husband, and if
this protection separates her from him, it leaves her the more utterly at
the mercy of the world.</p>
<p>Various curious results flow, in criminal law, from this supposition that
husband and wife are only one person. They are incompetent—except in
a few special instances—to give evidence for or against each other
in criminal cases; if a woman's husband be one of several defendants
indicted together, the woman cannot give evidence either for or against
any of them. Where the wife of an accomplice is the only person to confirm
her husband's statement, the statement falls to the ground, as, in
practice, confirmation thereof is required; in the case of Rex v. Neal (7
C. and P 168), Justice Park said: "Confirmation by the wife is, in this
case, really no confirmation at all. The wife and the accomplice must be
taken as one for this purpose. The prisoners must be acquitted." They may,
however, be severally called as witnesses by the prosecution and the
defence, in order that they may contradict each other. Where the wife has
suffered personal violence from her husband she is permitted to swear the
peace against him, and in divorce suits husband and wife are both
admissible as witnesses. A wife who sets fire to her husband's house may
escape punishment, as in the case of Rex. v. March: "March and his wife
had lived separate for about two years; and, previous to the act, when she
applied for the candle with which it was done, she said it was to set her
husband's house on fire, because she wanted to burn him to death. Upon a
case reserved upon the question whether it was an offence within the 7 and
8 George IV., cap. 30, sec. 2, for a wife to set fire to her husband's
house for the purpose of doing him a personal injury, the conviction was
held wrong, the learned judges thinking that to constitute the offence, it
was essential that there should be an intent to injure or defraud some
third person, not one identified with herself" (Ibid, p. 899).
Identification with one's beloved may be delightful in theory, but when,
in practice, it comes to being burned at pleasure, surely the greatest
stickler for the "twain being one" must feel some twinges of doubt. The
identity of husband and wife is often by no means advantageous to the
husband, for he thereby becomes responsible, to a great extent, for his
wife's misdoings. "For slanderous words spoken by the wife, libel
published by her alone, trespass, assault and battery, &c., he is
liable to be so sued, whether the act was committed with or without his
sanction or knowledge.... And wherever the action is grounded on a tort,
committed by the wife, it no way affects the necessity of joining the
husband, that the parties are living apart, nor even that they are
divorced <i>a mensâ et thoro,</i> or that the wife is living in adultery"
(Lush's "Common Law Practice," 2nded. p. 156). Pleasant position for a man
whose wife may have left him, to be suddenly dragged before a court of
justice for some misdeed of hers, of which he may never have heard until
he finds himself summoned to answer for it! A large amount of injustice
arises from this absurd, fiction that two are one; it sometimes injures,
sometimes protects the married woman, and it often shields those who have
wronged her; but whether it injure or whether it protect, it is equally
vicious; it is <i>unjust</i>, and injustice is a radical injury to a
community, and by destroying the reasonableness and the certainty of the
law, it saps that reverence for it which is one of the safeguards of
society.</p>
<p>Let us now take Blackstone's "rights of every Englishman," and see what
rights the common law allowed to a married Englishwoman. A married woman
is not protected by the law in the "uninterrupted enjoyment of" her
"limbs," her "body," or her "reputation." On the contrary: "If a wife be
injured in her person, or her property, she can bring no action for
redress without her husband's concurrence, and in his name as well as her
own" (Blackstone, p. 443). If in a railway accident a married woman has
her leg broken, she cannot sue the railway company for damages; she is not
a damaged <i>person</i>; in the eye of the law, she is a piece of damaged
<i>property</i>, and the compensation is to be made to her owner. If she
is attacked and beaten she cannot at law sue her assailant; her master
suffers loss and inconvenience by the assault on his housekeeper, and his
action is necessary to obtain redress. If she is libelled, she cannot
protect her good name, for she is incapable by herself of maintaining an
action. In fact, it is not even needful that her name should appear at all
in the matter: "the husband may sue alone for loss of his wife's society
by injury done to her, or for damage to her reputation" (Comyn's Digest,
under "Baron and Feme"). The following curious statement of the law on
this head is given in Broom's "Commentaries:"</p>
<p>"Injuries which may be offered to a person, considered as a husband, and
which are cognizable in a court of common law, are principally three: 1,
abduction, or taking away a man's wife; 2, beating her; 3, indirectly
causing her some personal hurt, by negligence or otherwise. 1. As to the
first sort, abduction, or taking her away, this may either be by fraud and
persuasion, or open violence; though the law in both cases supposes force
and constraint, the wife having no power to consent, and therefore gives a
remedy by action of trespass; and the husband is also entitled to recover
damages in an action on the case against such as persuade and entice the
wife to live separate from him without a sufficient cause.... 2, 3. The
second and third injuries above mentioned are constituted by beating a
man's wife, or otherwise ill-using her; or causing hurt to her by
negligence. For a common assault upon, or battery, or imprisonment, of the
wife, the law gives the usual remedy to recover damages, by action of
trespass, which must be brought in the names of the husband and wife
jointly: but if the beating or other maltreatment be so enormous, that
thereby the husband is deprived for any time of the company and assistance
of his wife, the law then gives him a separate remedy by action for this
ill-usage, <i>per quod consortium amisit</i>, in which he may recover a
satisfaction in damages. By a provision of the C. L. Proc. Act, 1852, s.
40, in an action by husband and wife jointly for an injury to the wife,
the husband is now allowed to add a claim in his own right—as for
the loss of the wife's society—or where a joint trespass and assault
have been committed on the husband and his wife" (vol. iii., pp. 149,
150). So far is recognised the husband's complete claim over his wife's
person, that anyone who receives a married woman into his house and gives
her shelter there after having received notice from her husband that he is
not to permit her to remain under his roof, actually becomes liable in
damages to the husband. The husband cannot sue for damages if he has
turned his wife out of doors, or if he has lost his right of control by
cruelty or adultery; short of this, he may obtain damages against any
friend or relative of the woman who gives her shelter. The wife has no
such remedy against anyone who may induce the husband to live apart, or
who may give him house-room at his own wish. The reason for the law being
as we find it, is stated by Broom without the smallest compunction: "We
may observe that in these relative injuries notice is only taken of the
wrong done to the superior of the parties related, by the breach and
dissolution of either the relation itself, or at least the advantage
accruing therefrom; while the loss of the inferior by such injuries is,
except where the death of a parent has been caused by negligence,
unregarded. One reason for which may be, that the inferior has no kind of
property in the company, care, or assistance of the superior, as the
superior is held to have in that of the inferior; and therefore the
inferior can, in contemplation of law, suffer no loss consequential on a
wrongful act done to his superior. The wife cannot recover damages for the
beating of her husband. The child has no property in his father or
guardian. And the servant, whose master is disabled, does not thereby lose
his maintenance or wages (Ibid, p. 153). A man may recover damages equally
for the injury done to his servant or to his wife; in both cases he loses
their services, and the law recompenses him. A peculiarly disgusting phase
of this claim is where a husband claims damages against a co-respondent in
the divorce court; if a wife be unfaithful, the husband can not only get a
divorce, but can also claim a money payment from the seducer to make up
for the damage he has sustained by losing his wife's services. An
unmarried girl, under age, is regarded as the property of her father, and
the father may bring an action against her seducer for the loss of his
daughter's services. It is not the woman who is injured, or who has any
redress; it is her male owner who can recover damages for the injury done
to his property."</p>
<p>If a wife be separated from her husband, either by deed or by judicial
decree, she has no remedy for injury or for libel, unless by the doubtful
plan of using her husband's name without his consent. On this injustice
Lord Lyndhurst, speaking in the House of Lords in 1856, said: "A wife is
separated from her husband by a decree of the Ecclesiastical Court, the
reason for that decree being the husband's misconduct—his cruelty,
it may be, or his adultery. From that moment the wife is almost in a state
of outlawry. She may not enter into a contract, or if she do, she has no
means of enforcing it. The law, so far from protecting, oppresses her. She
is homeless, helpless, hopeless, and almost wholly destitute of civil
rights. She is liable to all manner of injustice, whether by plot or by
violence. She may be wronged in all possible ways, and her character may
be mercilessly defamed; yet she has no redress. She is at the mercy of her
enemies. Is that fair? Is that honest? Can it be vindicated upon any
principle of justice, of mercy or of common humanity?"</p>
<p>A married woman loses control over her own body; it belongs to her owner,
not to herself; no force, no violence, on the husband's part in conjugal
relations is regarded as possible by the law; she may be suffering, ill,
it matters not; force or constraint is recognised by the law as rape, in
all cases save that of marriage; the law "holds, it to be felony to force
even a concubine or harlot" (Broom's "Commentaries," vol. iv., p. 255),
but no rape can be committed by a husband on a wife; the consent given in
marriage is held to cover the life, and if—as sometimes occurs—a
miscarriage or premature confinement be brought on by the husband's
selfish passions, no offence is committed in the eye of the law, for the
wife is the husband's property, and by marriage she has lost the right of
control over her own body. The English marriage law sweeps away all the
tenderness, all the grace, all the generosity of love, and transforms
conjugal affection into a hard and brutal legal right.</p>
<p>By the common law the husband has a right to inflict corporal punishment
on his wife, and although this right is now much restricted, the effect of
the law is seen in the brutal treatment of wives among the rougher
classes, and the light—sometimes no—punishment inflicted on
wife-beaters. The common law is thus given by Blackstone: "The husband
also (by the old law) might give his wife moderate correction. For as he
is to answer for her misbehaviour, the law thought it reasonable to
entrust him with this power of restraining her, by domestic chastisement,
in the same moderation that a man is allowed to correct his apprentices or
children. The lower rank of people, who were always fond of the old common
law, still claim and exert their ancient privilege." Blackstone grimly
adds, after saying this is all for woman's protection: "So great a
favourite is the female sex of the laws of England" (444 and 445). This
"ancient privilege" is very commonly exercised at the present time. A man
who dragged his wife out of bed (1877), and, pulling off her nightdress,
roasted her in front of the fire, was punished (?) by being bound over to
keep the peace for a short period. Men who knock their wives down, who
dance on them, who drag them about by the hair, &c., are condemned to
brief terms of imprisonment, and are then allowed to resume their marital
authority, and commence a new course of ill-treatment. In dealing later
with the changes I shall recommend in the marriage laws, this point will
come under discussion.</p>
<p>Coming to the second "right," of "personal liberty," we find that a
married woman has no such right. Blackstone says, as we have seen: "the
confinement of a person in any wise is an imprisonment So that the keeping
a man against his will in a private house... is an imprisonment" (p. 136).
But a husband may legally act as his wife's gaoler; "the courts of law
will still permit a husband to restrain his wife of her liberty, in case
of any gross misbehaviour" (Blackstone, p. 445). "If the wife squanders
his estate, or goes into lewd company, he may deprive her of liberty"
(Comyn's Digest, under "Baron and Feme"). Broom says that at the present
time "there can be no question respecting the common-law right of a
husband to restrain his wife of her personal liberty, with a view to
prevent her going into society of which he disapproves, or otherwise
disobeying his rightful authority; such right must not, however, be
exercised unnecessarily, or with undue severity: and the moment that the
wife by returning to her conjugal duties, makes restraint of her person
unnecessary, such restraint becomes unlawful" (vol. i, p. 547). In the
year 1877 a publican at Spilsby chained up his wife to the wall from one
day to the afternoon of the following one, in order, he said, to keep her
from drink; the magistrates dismissed him without punishment. It may be
argued that a woman should not get drunk, go into bad company, &c.
Quite so; neither should a man. But would men admit, that under similar
circumstances, a wife should have legal power to deprive her husband of
liberty? If not, there is no reason in justice why the husband should be
permitted to exercise it. Offences known to the law should be punished by
the law, and by the law alone; offences which the law cannot touch should
entail no punishment on an adult at the hands of a private individual.
Public disapproval may brand them, but no personal chastisement should be
inflicted by arbitrary and irresponsible power.</p>
<p>The third right, of "property," has also no existence for married women.
Unmarried women have here no ground for complaint: "A <i>feme sole</i>,
before her marriage, may do all acts for disposition, etc., of her lands
or goods which any man in the same circumstances may do" (Comyn's Digest,
under "Baron and Feme"). The disabilities which affect women as women do
not touch property; a <i>feme sole</i> may own real or personal estate,
buy, sell, give, contract, sue, and be sued, just as though she were of
the "worthier blood;" it is marriage that, like felony and insanity,
destroys her capability as proprietor. According to the common law—with
which we will deal first—the following results accrued from
marriage:—</p>
<p>"Whatever personal property belonged to the wife before marriage, is by
marriage absolutely vested in the husband... in chattel interests, the
sole and absolute property vests in the husband, to be disposed of at his
pleasure, if he chooses to take possession of them" (Blackstone, book ii.
443). If he takes possession, they do not, at his death, revert to the
wife, but go to his heirs or to anyone he chooses by will. "If a woman be
seized of an estate of inheritance, and marries, her husband shall be
seized of in her right" (Comyn's Digest, under "Baron and Feme"). If a
woman own land in her own right, all rents and profits are not hers, but
her husband's; even arrears of rents due before coverture become his; he
may make a lease of her land, commencing after his own death, and she is
barred, although she survive him; he may dispose of his wife's interest;
it may be forfeited by his crime, seized for his debt; she only regains it
if she survives him and he has not disposed of it. If a woman, before
marriage, lets her land on a lease, the rental, after marriage, becomes
her husband's, and her receipt is not a good discharge. If a wife grants a
rent-charge out of her own lands (or, rather, what should be her own)
without the husband's consent, it is void. All personal goods that "the
wife has in possession in her own right, are vested in her husband by the
marriage" (Ibid); gifts to her become his; if he sues for a debt due to
his wife, and recovers it, it is his; if a legacy be left her, it goes to
him; after his death, all that was her personal property originally, goes
to his executors and administrators, and does not revert to her; so
absolutely is all she may become possessed of his by law that if, after a
divorce <i>a mensâ et thoro</i>, the wife should sue another woman for
adultery with her husband, and should be awarded her costs, the husband
can release the woman from payment.</p>
<p>If a woman own land and lease it, then if, during marriage, the husband
reduce it into possession, "as where rent accruing on a lease granted by
the wife <i>dum sola</i> is received by a person appointed for that
purpose during the husband's life," under such circumstances the husband's
"executors, not his widow, must sue the agent" (Lush's "Common Law
Practice," 2nd. ed., p. 27). In a case where "certain leasehold property
was conveyed to trustees upon trust to permit the wife to receive the
rents thereof to her sole and separate use, and she after marriage
deposited with her trustees part of such rents and died; it was held that
her husband might recover the same in an action in his own right. Such
money, so deposited, was not a <i>chose in action</i> belonging to the
wife, but money belonging to the husband, the trust having been discharged
in the payment of the rents to the wife" (Ibid, p. 9 7 ). Marriage, to a
man, is regarded as a kind of lucrative business: "The next method of
acquiring property in goods and chattels is by marriage; whereby those
chattels, which belonged formerly to the wife, are by act of law vested in
the husband, with the same degree of property, and with the same powers,
as the wife, when sole, had over them... A distinction is taken between
chattels real and chattels personal, and of chattels personal, whether in
possession or reversion, or in action. A chattel real vests in the
husband, not absolutely, but <i>sub modo</i>. As, in case of a lease for
years, the husband shall receive all the rents and profits of it, and nay,
if he pleases, sell, surrender, or dispose of it during the coverture; if
he be outlawed or attainted, it shall be forfeited to the king; it is
liable to execution for his debts; and if he survives his wife, it is to
all intents and purposes his own. Yet, if he has made no disposition
thereof in his lifetime, and dies before his wife, he cannot dispose of it
by will: for, the husband having made no alteration in the property during
his life, it never was transferred from the wife; but after his death she
shall remain in her ancient possession, and it shall not go to his
executors. If, however, the wife die in the husband's lifetime, the
chattel real survives to him. As to chattels personal (or choses) in
action, as debts upon bonds, contracts, and the like, these the husband
may have if he pleases; that is, if he reduces them into possession by
receiving or recovering them at law. And upon such receipt or recovery
they are absolutely and entirely his own; and shall go to his executors or
administrators, or as he shall bequeath them by will, and shall not revest
in the wife. But, if he dies before he has recovered or reduced them into
possession, so that, at his death, they still continue choses in action,
they shall survive to the wife; for the husband never exerted the power he
had of obtaining an exclusive property in them. If the wife die before the
husband has reduced choses in action into possession, he does not become
entitled by survivorship; nevertheless, he may, by becoming her
administrator, gain a title. Chattels in possession, such as ready money
and the like, vest absolutely in the husband, and he may deal with them,
either whilst living, or by his will, as he pleases. Where the interest of
the wife is reversionary, the husband's power is but small; unless it
falls into possession during the marriage, his contracts or engagements do
not bind it" ("Comm, on the Laws of England," Broom and Hadley, vol. ii.,
pp. 618, 619). So highly does the law value the claims of a husband that
it recognizes them as existing even before marriage; for if a woman who
has contracted an engagement to marry dispose of her property privately,
settle it on herself, or on her children, without the cognizance of the
man to whom she is engaged, such settlement or disposition may be set
aside by the husband as a fraud.</p>
<p>So cruel, as regards, property, was felt to be the action of the common
law, that the wealthy devised means to escape from it, and women of
property were protected on their marriage by "marriage settlements,"
whereby they were contracted out of the law. A woman's property was by
this means, "settled on herself;" it was necessary to treat her as
incapable, so her property was not in her own power but was vested in
trustees for her separate use; thus che principal, or the estate, was
protected, but the whole interest or rental, as before, could be taken by
the husband the moment it was received by the wife; her signature became
necessary to draw it, but the moment it came into her possession it ceased
to be hers. The next step was an attempt to protect women's money in their
own hands; terrible cases of wrong were continually arising: men who
deserted their wives, and left them to maintain the burden of a family,
came back after the wife had accumulated a little property, sold the
furniture, pocketed the proceeds, and departed, leaving the wife to
recommence her labours. Orders of protection were given by magistrates,
but these were not found sufficient. At last, parliamentary interference
was called for with an urgency that could no longer be resisted, and a
Bill to amend the laws relating to married women's property was introduced
into the House of Commons. How sore was the need of such amendment may be
seen from the following extracts:—</p>
<p>Mr. Russell Gurney, in moving (April 14, 1869) the second reading of the
Bill, observed: "It is now proposed that, for the first time in our
history, the property of one half of the married people of this country
should receive the protection of the law. Up to this time the property of
a wife has had no protection from the law, or rather, he should say, in
the eye of the law it has had no existence. From the moment of her
marriage the wife, in fact, possesses no property; whatever she may up to
that time have possessed, by the very act of marriage passes from her, and
any gift or bequest made to her becomes at once the property of the
husband. Nay, Even that which one might suppose to be her inalienable
right, the fruit of her mental or bodily toil, is denied her. She may be
gifted with powers which enable her to earn an ample fortune, but the
moment it is earned, it is not hers,' it is her husband's. In fact, from
the time of her entering into what is described as an honourable estate,
the law pronounces her unfit to hold any property whatever."</p>
<p>Mr. Jessel (now Master of the Rolls) in seconding the motion, in the
course of an able and impassioned speech, said: "The existing law is a
relic of slavery, and the House is now asked to abolish the last remains
of slavery in England. In considering what ought to be the nature of the
law, we cannot deny that no one should be deprived of the power of
disposition, unless on proof of unfitness to exercise that power; and it
is not intelligible on what principle a woman should be considered
incapable of contracting immediately after she has, with the sanction of
the law, entered into the most important contract conceivable. The slavery
laws of antiquity are the origin of the common law on this subject. The
Roman law originally regarded the position of a wife as similar to that of
a daughter who had no property, and might be sold into slavery at the will
of her father. When the Roman law became that of a civilised people, the
position of the wife was altogether changed.... The ancient Germans—from
whom our law is derived—put the woman into the power of her husband
in the same sense as the ancient Roman law did. She became his slave. The
law of slavery—whether Roman or English—for we once had slaves
and slave-laws in England—gave to the master of a slave the two
important rights of flogging and imprisoning him. A slave could not
possess property of his own, and could not make contracts except for his
master's benefit, and the master alone could sue for an injury to the
slave; while the only liability of the master was that he must not let his
slave starve. This is exactly the position of the wife under the English
law; the husband has the right of flogging and imprisoning her, as may be
seen by those who read Blackstone's chapter on the relations of husband
and wife. She cannot possess property—she cannot contract, except it
is as his agent; and he alone can sue if she is libelled or suffers a
personal injury; while all the husband is compellable to do for her is to
pay for necessaries. It is astonishing that a law founded on such
principles should have survived to the nineteenth century."</p>
<p>A quotation from a later debate finds its fit place here: Mr. Hinde
Palmer, in moving (February 19, 1873) the second reading of the Married
Woman's Property Act (1870) Amendment Bill, pointed out that the common
law was, that by marriage "the whole of a woman's personal property was
immediately vested in her husband, and placed entirely at his disposal. By
contracting marriage, a woman forfeited all her property. In 1868, the
Chancellor of the Exchequer, Mr. Lowe, said: 'Show me what crime there is
in matrimony that it should be visited by the same punishment as high
treason—namely, confiscation, for that is really the fact.' Mr.
Mill, too, speaking on that question, said that a large portion of the
inhabitants of this country were in the anomalous position of having
imposed on them, without having done anything to deserve it, what we
inflicted on the worst criminals as a penalty: like felons, they were
incapable of holding property."</p>
<p>Some great and beneficial changes were made by the Acts of 1870 and 1873,
although much yet remains to be done. By the Act of 1870, the wages and
earnings of married women were protected; they were made capable of
depositing money in the savings' banks in their own names; they might hold
property in the Funds in their own names, and have the dividends paid to
them; they might hold fully-paid up shares, or stock, to which no
liability was attached; property in societies might be retained by them;
money coming to a married woman as the next-of-kin, or one of the
next-of-kin to an intestate, or by deed or will, was made her own,
provided that such money did not exceed £200; the rents and profits of
freehold, copyhold, or customary-hold property inherited by a married
woman were to be her own; a married woman might insure her own or her
husband's life; might, under some circumstances, maintain an action in her
own name; married women were made liable for the maintenance of their
husbands and children. The Act of 1873 relates entirely to the recovery of
debts contracted by the woman before marriage. It will be perceived that
these Acts are very inadequate as regards placing married women in a just
position towards their property, but they are certainly a step in the
right direction. The Acts only apply to those women who have been married
subsequently to their passing.</p>
<p>One great omission in them will have to be promptly remedied, both for the
sake of married women and for the sake of their creditors: while a married
woman now may, under some circumstances, sue, no machinery is provided
whereby she may be sued—without joining her husband.</p>
<p>In an admirable letter to the Times of March 14, 1878, Mrs. Ursule Bright,
alluding to the "obscurity and uncertainty of the law," points out "The
effect of that obscurity upon the credit of respectable married women
earning their own and their children's bread, in any employment or
business carried on separately from their husband; the inconvenience and
risk to their creditors is, as you have most ably pointed out, great; but
the injury to honest wives is far greater. It puts them at a considerable
disadvantage in the labour market and in business. A married woman, for
instance, keeping a little shop, may sue for debts due to her, but has no
corresponding liability to be sued. If the whereabouts of the husband is
not very clearly defined, it is evident she may have some difficulty in
obtaining credit.</p>
<p>"Again, what employer of labour can with any security engage the services
of a married woman? She may leave her work at the mill at an hour's notice
unfinished, and her employer has no remedy against her for breach of
contract, as a married woman can make no contract which is legally
binding. There is no question that such a state of the law must operate as
a restriction upon her power to support herself and family.</p>
<p>"The state of muddle of the present law is almost inconceivable. Even now
a woman need not pay her debts contracted before marriage out of earnings
made after marriage. Suppos an artist or a literary woman to marry when
burdened with debts and having no property; should she be earning £1,000
or £10,000 a year by her profession after marriage, these earnings could
not be made liable for her debts contracted before marriage."</p>
<p>It cannot too plainly be repeated that non-liability to be sued means
non-existence of credit.</p>
<p>The law, as it stands at present, is the old Common Law, modified by the
Acts of 1870 and 1873. Archbold says—dealing with indictments for
theft—"Where the person named as owner appears to be a married
woman, the defendant must, unless the indictment is amended, be
acquitted... because in law the goods are the property of the husband;
even though she be living apart from her husband upon an income arising
from property vested in trustees for her separate use, because the goods
cannot be the property of the trustees; and, in law, a married woman has
no property" (Archbold's "Criminal Cases," p. 43). Archbold gives as
exceptions to this general rule, where a judicial separation has taken
place, where the wife has obtained a protection order, or where the
property is such as is covered by the Married Women's Property Act, 1870.
"Where a married woman lived apart from her husband, upon an income
arising from property vested in trustees for her separate use, the judges
held that a house which she lived in was properly described as her
husband's dwelling-house, though she paid the rent out of her separate
property, and the husband had never been in it. R. v. French, R. v. R.,
491" (Ibid, p. 521). If a burglary be committed in a house belonging to a
married woman, the house must be said to be the dwelling-house of her
husband, or the burglar will be acquitted; if she be living separate from
her husband, paying her own rent out of money secured for her separate
use, it makes no difference; it was decided, in the case of Rex v. French,
that a married woman could own no property, and that the house must,
therefore, belong to the husband. If a married woman picks up a purse in
the road and is robbed of it, the property vests in the husband: "Where
goods are in the possession of the wife, they must be laid as the goods of
her husband; thus, if A is indicted for stealing the goods of B, and it
appears that B was a <i>feme covert</i> at the time, A must be acquitted.
And even if the wife have only received money as the agent of another
person, and she is robbed of that money before her husband receives it
into his possession, still it is well laid as his money in an indictment
for larceny. An indictment charging the stealing of a £5 Bank of England
note, the property of E. Wall, averring, in the usual way, that the money
secured by the note was due and payable to E. Wall; it appeared that E.
Wall's wife had been employed to sell sheep belonging to her father, of or
in which her husband never had either possession or any interest, and she
received the note in payment for the sheep, and it was stolen from her
before she left the place where she received it. It was objected that the
note never was the property of E. Wall, either actually or constructively;
the money secured by it was not his, and he had no qualified property in
it, as it never was in his possession; but it was held that the property
was properly laid" (Russell on Crimes, 5th ed., vol. ii., pp. 243, 244).
Yet even a child, in the eye of the law, has property, and if his clothes
are stolen, it is safer to allege them to be the child's property. The
main principle of English law remains unaltered by recent legislation,
that "a married woman has no property." Married women share incapacity to
manage property with minors and lunatics; minors, lunatics, and married
women are taken care of by trustees; minors become of age, lunatics often
recover, married women remain incapable during the whole of their married
life.</p>
<p>Being incapable of holding property, a married woman is of course,
incapable of making a will. Here, also, the Common Law may be checkmated.
She may make a will "by virtue of a power reserved to her, or of a
marriage settlement, or with her husband's assent, or it may be made by
her to carry her separate estate; and the court in determining whether or
not such will is entitled to probate, will not go minutely into the
question, but will only require that the testatrix had a power reserved to
her, or was entitled to separate estate, and will, if so satisfied, grant
probate to her executor, leaving it to the Court of Chancery, as the court
of construction, to say what portion of her estate, if any, will pass
under such will. In this case the husband, though he may not be entitled
to take probate of his wife's will, may administer to such of her effects
as do not pass under the will" ("Comm, on the Laws of England," Broom and
Hadley, vol. iii., pp. 427, 428). Thus we see that a husband may will away
from his wife her own original property, but a wife may not even will away
her own, unless the right be specially reserved to her before marriage.
And yet it is urged that women have no need of votes, their interests
being so well looked after by their fathers, husbands, and brothers!</p>
<p>We have thus seen that the "rights of every Englishman" are destroyed in
women by marriage; one would imagine that matrimony was a crime for which
a woman deserved punishment, and that confiscation and outlawry were the
fit rewards of her misdeed.</p>
<p>From these three great fundamental wrongs flow a large number of legal
disabilities. Take the case of a prisoner accused of misdemeanour; he is
often set free on his own recognizances; but a married woman cannot be so
released, for she is incapable of becoming bail or of giving her own
recognizances; she is here again placed in bad company: "no person who has
been convicted of any crime by which he has become infamous is allowed to
be surety for any person charged or suspected of an indictable offence.
Nor can a married woman, or an infant, or a prisoner in custody, be bail"
(Archbold, p. 88). Let us now suppose that a woman be accused of some
misdemeanour, and be committed for trial: she desires to have her case
tried by a higher court than the usual one, and wishes to remove the
indictment by writ of <i>certiorari</i>: she finds that the advantage is
denied her, because, as a married woman, she has no property, and she
cannot therefore enter into the necessary recognizances to pay costs in
the case of a conviction. Thus a married woman finds herself placed at a
cruel disadvantage as compared with an unmarried woman or with men.</p>
<p>In matters of business, difficulties arise on every hand: a married woman
is incapable of making a contract; if she takes a house without her
husband's knowledge and without stating that she is married, the landlord
may repudiate the contract; if she states that she is married, the
landlord knows that she is unable to make a legal contract, and refuses to
let or lease to her, without heavy security. If she buys things she cannot
be sued for non-payment without making the husband a defendant, and she
consequently finds that she has no credit. If she is cheated, she cannot
sue, except in cases covered by the recent Acts, without joining her
husband, and so she has often to submit to be wronged. "A <i>feme covert</i>
cannot sue without her husband being joined as co-plaintiff, so long as
the relation of marriage subsists. It matters not that he is an alien, and
has left the country; or that, being a subject, he has absconded from the
realm as a bankrupt or for other purpose; or that he has become
permanently resident abroad; or that they are living apart under a deed of
separation; or have been divorced <i>a mensâ et thoro</i>; for none of
these events dissolve or work a suspension of the marriage contract, and
so long as that endures, the wife is unable to sue alone, whatever the
cause of action may be. This disability results from the rule of law which
vests in the husband not only all the goods and chattels which belonged to
the wife at the time of the marriage, but also all which she acquires
afterwards" (Lush's "Common Law Practice," 2nd ed., pp. 33, 34). The same
principle governs all suits against a married woman; the husband must be
sued with her: "In all actions brought against a <i>feme covert</i> while
the relation of marriage subsists, the husband must be joined for
conformity, it being an inflexible rule of law that a wife shall not be
sued without her husband.... If therefore a wife enters into a bond
jointly with her husband, or makes a bill of exchange, promissory note, or
any other contract, she cannot be sued thereon, but the action should be
brought against, and the bond, bill, alleged to have been made by, the
husband" (Ibid, p. 75).</p>
<p>The thoughtful author of the "Rights of Women" remarks that the incapacity
to sue is "traceable to the time when disputes were settled by the
judgment of arms. A man represents his wife at law now, because in the
days of the judicial combat he was her champion-at-arms, and she is unable
to sue now, because she was unable to fight then" (p. 22). The explanation
is a very reasonable one, and is only an additional proof of the need of
alteration in the law; our marriage laws are, as has been shown above, the
survival of barbarism, and we only ask that modern civilisation will alter
and improve them as it does everything else: trial by combat has been
destroyed; ought not its remains to be buried out of sight? The
consequence of these business disabilities is that a married woman finds
herself thwarted at every turn, and if she be trying to gain a livelihood,
and be separated from her husband, she is constantly pained and annoyed by
the marriage-fetter, which hinders her activity and checks her efforts to
make her way. The notion that irresponsibility is an advantage is an
entirely mistaken one; an irresponsible person cannot be dealt with in
business matters, and is shut out of all the usual independent ways of
obtaining a livelihood. Authorship and servitude are the only paths really
open to married women; in every other career they find humiliating
obstacles which it needs both courage and perseverance to surmount.</p>
<p>Married women rank among the "persons in subjection to the power of
others;" they thus come among those who in many cases are not criminally
liable; "infants under the age of discretion," persons who are <i>non
compotes mentis</i> (not of sound mind), and persons acting under
coercion, are not criminally liable for their misdeeds. A married woman is
presumed to act under her husband's coercion, unless the contrary be
proved, and she may thus escape punishment for her wrongdoings:
"Constraint of a superior is sometimes allowed as an excuse for criminal
misconduct, by reason of the matrimonial subjection of the wife to her
husband; but neither a son, nor a servant is excused for the commission of
any crime by the command or coercion of the parent or master. Thus, if a
woman commit theft, or burglary, by the coercion of her husband, or even
in his company, which the law <i>primâ facie</i> construes a coercion, she
is dispunishable, being considered to have acted by compulsion, and not of
her own will" ("Comm, on the Laws of England," Broom and Hadley, vol. iv.,
p. 27). "A <i>feme covert</i> is so much favoured in respect of that power
and authority which her husband has over her, that she shall not suffer
any punishment for committing a bare theft, or even a burglary, by the
coercion of her husband, or in his company, which the law construes a
coercion" (Russell "On Crimes," vol. i., p. 139). "Where the wife is to be
considered merely as the servant of the husband, she will not be
answerable for the consequences of his breach of duty, however fatal,
though she may be privy to his conduct. C. Squire and his wife were
indicted for the murder of a boy;" he had been cruelly treated by both,
and died "from debility and want of proper food and nourishment;"
"Lawrence, J., directed the jury, that as the wife was the servant of the
husband, it was not her duty to provide the apprentice with sufficient
food and nourishment, and that she was not guilty of any breach of duty in
neglecting to do so; though, if the husband had allowed her sufficient
food for the apprentice, and she had wilfully withholden it from him, then
she would have been guilty. But that here the fact was otherwise; and
therefore, though <i>in foro conscientiæ</i> the wife was equally guilty
with the husband, yet in point of law she could not be said to be guilty
of not providing the apprentice with sufficient food and nourishment"
(Ibid., pp. 144, 145). It is hard to see what advantage society gains by
this curious fashion of reckoning married women as children or lunatics.
Some advantages, however, flow to a criminal husband: a wife is not
punishable for concealing her husband from justice, knowing that he has
committed felony; a husband may not conceal his wife under analogous
circumstances: "So strict is the law where a felony is actually complete,
in order to do effectual justice, that the nearest relations are not
suffered to aid or receive one another. If the parent assists his child,
or the child his parent, if the brother receives the brother, the master
his servant, or the servant his master, or even if the husband receives
his wife, having any of them committed a felony, the receiver becomes an
accessory <i>ex post facto</i>. But a <i>feme covert</i> cannot become an
accessory by the receipt and concealment of her husband; for she is
presumed to act under his coercion, and therefore she is not bound,
neither ought she, to discover her lord" (Ibid., p. 38). The wife of a
blind husband must not, however, regard her coverture as in all cases a
protection, for it has been held that if stolen goods were in her
possession, her husband's blindness preventing him from knowing of them,
her coverture did not avail to shelter her.</p>
<p>Any advantage which married women may possess through the supposition that
they are acting under the coercion of their husbands ought to be summarily
taken away from them. It is not for the safety of society that criminals
should escape punishment simply because they happen to be married women; a
criminal husband becomes much more dangerous to the community if he is to
have an irresponsible fellow-conspirator beside him; two people—although
the law regards them as one—can often commit a crime that a single
person could not accomplish, and it is not even impossible that an
unscrupulous woman, desiring to get rid easily for awhile of an unpleasant
husband, might actually be the secret prompter of an offence, in the
commission of which she might share, but in the punishment of which she
would have no part. For the sake of wives, as well as of husbands, this
irresponsibility should be put an end to, for if a husband is to be held
accountable for his wife's misdeeds and debts, it is impossible for the
law to refuse him control over her actions; freedom and responsibility
must go hand in hand, and women who obtain the rights of freedom must
accept the duties of responsibility.</p>
<p>A woman has a legal claim on her husband for the necessaries of life, and
a man may be compelled to support his wife. But her claim is a very narrow
one, as may be seen by the following case:—A man named Plummer was
indicted for the manslaughter of his wife; he had been separated from her
for several years, and paid her an allowance of 2s. 6d. a week; the last
payment was made on a Sunday, and she was turned out of her lodgings on
the Tuesday following; she was suffering from diarrhoea, and on the
Wednesday was very ill. Plummer was told of her condition, but refused to
give her shelter; the evening was wet, and a constable meeting her
wandering about took her to her husband's lodgings, but he would not admit
her; on Thursday he paid for a bed for her at a public-house, and on
Friday she died. Baron Gurney told the jury that the prisoner could not be
charged with having caused her death from want of food, since he made her
an allowance, and under ordinary circumstances he might have refused to do
anything more; the only question was whether the refusal as to shelter had
hastened her death. The man was acquitted. A wife has also some limited
rights over her husband's property after his death; she may claim dower,
her wearing apparel, a bed, and some few other things, including her
personal jewellery. Her husband's power to deprive her of her personal
ornaments ceases with his life.</p>
<p>To redress the whole of the wrongs as to property, and to enable justice
to be done, it is only necessary to pass a short Act of Parliament,
ordaining that marriage shall in no fashion alter the civil status of a
woman, that she shall have over property the same rights as though she
were unmarried, and shall, in all civil and criminal matters, be held as
responsible as though she were a <i>feme sole</i>. In short, marriage;
ought no more to affect a woman's position than it does a man's, and
should carry with it no kind of legal disability; "marital control" should
cease to exist, and marriage should be regarded as a contract between
equals, and not as a bond between master and servant.</p>
<p>Those who are entirely opposed to the idea that a woman should not forfeit
her property on marriage, raise a number of theoretical difficulties as to
household expenses, ownership of furniture, &c., &c. Practically
these would very seldom occur, if we may judge by the experience of
countries whose marriage laws do not entail forfeiture on the woman who
becomes a wife. In the "Rights of Women," quoted from above, a very useful
summary is given of the laws as to property in various countries; in
Germany these laws vary considerably in the different states; one system,
known as "Gutergemeinschaft" (community of goods) is a great advance
towards equality, although it is not by any means the best resolution of
the problem; under this system there is no separate property, it is all
merged in the common stock, and "the husband, as such, has no more right
over the common 'fund than the wife, nor the wife than the husband" (p.
26); the husband administers as "representative of the community, and not
as husband. He is merely head partner, as it were, and has no personal
rights beyond that;" he may be dispossessed of even this limited authority
if he is wasteful; "he cannot alienate or mortgage any of the common lands
or rights without her consent—a privilege, it must be remembered,
which belongs to her, not only over lands brought by herself, but also
over those brought by her husband to the marriage. And this control of the
wife over the immovables has, for parts of Prussia, been extended by a law
of April 16th, 1850, over movables as well; for the husband has been
forbidden to dispose not only of immovables, but of the whole or part of
the movable property, without the consent of his wife. Nor can the husband
by himself make donations <i>mortis causa</i>; such arrangements take the
form of mutual agreements between the two respecting their claims of
inheritance to one another" (p. 27). In Austria, married couples are more
independent of each other; the wives retain their rights over their own
property, and can dispose of it "as they like, and sue or be sued in
respect of it, without marital authorisation or control; and just as they
have the free disposition of their property, so they can contract with
others as they please. A husband is unable to alienate any of his wife's
property in her name, or to lend or mortgage it, or to receive any money,
institute any law-suits, or make any arrangements in respect of it unless
he has her special mandate.... If no stipulation is made at the marriage,
each spouse retains his or her separate property, and neither has a claim
to anything gained or in any way received by the other during the
marriage" (p. 50). In the New York code (U.S.A.), "beyond the claim of
mutual support, neither [husband nor wife] has any interest whatever in
the property of the other. Hence either may into any enter engagement or
transaction with the other or with a stranger with respect to property,
just as they might do if they continued unmarried" (p. 95). The
apportionment of household expenses must necessarily be left for the
private arrangement of the married pair; where the woman has property, or
where she earns her livelihood it would be her duty to contribute to the
support of the common home; where the couple are poor, and the care of the
house falls directly on the shoulders of the wife, her personal toil would
be her fair contribution; this matter should be arranged in the marriage
contract, just as similar matters are now dealt with in the marriage
settlements of the wealthy. As means of livelihood become more accessible
to women the question will be more and more easily arranged; it will no
longer be the fashion in homes of professional men that the husband shall
over-work himself in earning the means of support, while the wife over
rests herself in spending them, but a more evenly-divided duty shall
strengthen the husband's health by more leisure, and the wife's by more
work. Recovery of debts incurred for household expenses should be by suit
against husband and wife jointly, just as in a partnership the firm may
now be sued; recovery of personal debts should be by suits against the
person who had contracted them. Many a man's life is now rendered harder
than it ought to be, by the waste and extravagance of a wife who can
pledge his name and his credit, and even ruin him before he knows his
danger: would not the lives of such men be the happier and the less
toilsome if their wives were responsible for their own debts, and limited
by their own means? Many a woman's home is broken up, and her children
beggared, by the reckless spendthrift who wastes her fortune or her
earnings: would not the lives of such women be less hopeless, if marriage
left their property in their own hands, and did not give them a master as
well as a husband? Women, under these circumstances, would, of course,
become liable for the support of their children, equally with their
husbands—a liability which is, indeed, recognized by the Married
Women's Property Act (1870), s. 14.</p>
<p>It is sometimes further urged by those who like "a man to be master in his
own house," that unless women forfeited their property in marriage, there
would be constant discord in the home. Surely the contrary effect would be
produced. Mrs. Mill well says, in the Essay before quoted from: "The
highest order of durable and happy attachments would be a hundred times
more frequent than they are, if the affection which the two sexes sought
from one another were that genuine friendship which only exists between
equals in privileges as in faculties." Nothing is so likely to cause
unhappiness as the tendency to tyrannize, generated in the man by
authority, and the tendency to rebel, generated in the woman by enforced
submission. No grown person should be under the arbitrary power of
another; dependence is touching in the infant because of its helplessness;
it is revolting in the grown man or woman because with maturity of power
should come dignity of self-support.</p>
<p>In a brilliant article in the <i>Westminster Review</i> (July, 1874) the
writer well says: "Would it not, to begin with, be well to instruct girls
that weakness, cowardice, and ignorance, cannot constitute at once the
perfection of womankind and the imperfection of mankind?" It is time to do
away with the oak and ivy ideal, and to teach each plant to grow strong
and self-supporting. Perfect equality would, under this system, be found
in the home, and mutual respect and deference would replace the alternate
coaxing and commandment now too often seen. Equal rights would abolish
both tyranny and rebellion; there would be more courtesy in the husband,
more straightforwardness in the wife. Then, indeed, would there be some
hope of generally happy marriages, but, as has been eloquently said by the
writer just quoted, "till absolute social and legal equality is the basis
of the sacred partnership of marriage (the division of labours and duties
in the family, by free agreement, implying no sort of inequality), till no
superiority is recognized on either side but that of individual character
and capacity, till marriage is no longer legally surrounded with penalties
on the woman who enters into it as though she were a criminal—till
then the truest love, the truest sympathy, the truest happiness in it,
will be the exception rather than the rule, and the real value of this
relation, domestic and social, will be fatally missed." That some
marriages are happy, in spite of the evil law, no one will deny; but these
are the exception, not the rule. The law, as it is, directly tends to
promote unhappiness, and its whole influence on the relations of the sexes
is injurious. To quote Mrs. Mill once more: "The influence of the position
tends eminently to promote selfishness. The most insignificant of men, the
man who can obtain influence or consideration nowhere else, finds one
place where he is chief and head. There is one person, often greatly his
superior in understanding, who is obliged to consult him, and whom he is
not obliged to consult. He is judge, magistrate, ruler, over their joint
concerns; arbiter of all differences between them.... His is now the only
tribunal, in civilized life, in which the same person is judge and party.
A generous mind in such a situation makes the balance incline against its
own side, and gives the other not less, but more, than a fair equality,
and thus the weaker side may be enabled to turn the very fact of
dependence into an instrument of power, and in default of justice, take an
ungenerous advantage of generosity; rendering the unjust power, to those
who make an unselfish use of it, a torment and a burthen. But how is it
when average men are invested with this power, without reciprocity and
without responsibility? Give such a man the idea that he is first in law
and in opinion—that to will is his part, and hers to submit—it
is absurd to suppose that this idea merely glides over his mind, without
sinking into it, or having any effect on his feelings and practice. If
there is any self-will in the man, he becomes either the conscious or
unconscious despot of his household. The wife, indeed, often succeeds in
gaining her objects, but it is by some of the many various forms of
indirectness and management." When marriage is as it should be, there will
be no superior and inferior by right of position; but men and women,
whether married or unmarried, will retain intact the natural rights
"belonging to every Englishman."</p>
<p>In dealing with the wrongs of the wife, according to the present English
marriage laws, the wrongs of the mother must not be omitted. The unmarried
mother has a right to her child; the married mother has none: "A father is
entitled to the custody of his child until it attains the age of sixteen,
unless there be some sufficient reason to the contrary" (Russell "On
Crimes," vol. i., p. 898). The "sufficient reason" is hard to find in most
cases, as the inclination of the Courts is to make excuses for male
delinquencies, and to uphold every privilege which male Parliaments have
conferred on husbands and fathers. In Shelley's case the father was
deprived of the custody of his children, but here religious and political
heresy caused a strong bias against the poet. The father's right to the
custody of legitimate children is complete; the mother has no right over
them as against his; he may take them away from her, and place them in the
care of another woman, and she has no redress; she may apply to Chancery
for access to them at stated times, but even this is matter of favour, not
of right. The father may appoint a guardian in his will, and the mother,
although the sole surviving parent, has no right over her children as
against the stranger appointed by the dead father. If the parents differ
in religion, the children are to be brought up in that of the father,
whatever agreement may have been made respecting them before marriage; if
the father dies without leaving any directions, the children will be
educated in his religion; he can, if he chooses, allow his wife to bring
them up in her creed, but she can only do so by virtue of his permission.
Thus the married mother has no rights over her own children; she bears
them, nurses them, toils for them, watches over them, and may then have
them torn from her by no fault of her own, and given into the care of a
stranger. People talk of maternal love, and of woman's sphere, of her duty
in the home, of her work for her babes, but the law has no reverence for
the tie between mother and child, and ignores every claim of the mother
who is also a. wife. The unmarried mother is far better off; she has an
absolute right to the custody of her own children; none can step in and
deprive her of her little ones, for the law respects the maternal tie when
no marriage ceremony has "legitimated" it. Motherhood is only sacred in
the eye of the law when no legal contract exists between the parents of
the child.</p>
<p>Looking at a woman's position both as wife and mother, it is impossible
not to recognise the fact that marriage is a direct disadvantage to her.
In an unlegalised union the woman retains possession of all her natural
rights; she is mistress of her own actions, of her body, of her property;
she is able to legally defend herself against attack; all the Courts are
open to protect her; she forfeits none of her rights as an Englishwoman;
she keeps intact her liberty and her independence; she has no master; she
owes obedience to the laws alone. If she have a child, the law
acknowledges her rights over it, and no man can use her love for it as an
engine of torture to force her into compliance with his will. Two
disadvantages, however, attach to unlegalised unions; first, the woman has
to face social disapprobation, although of late years, as women have been
coming more to the front, this difficulty has been very much decreased,
for women have begun to recognise the extreme injustice of the laws, and
both men and women of advanced views have advocated great changes in the
marriage contract. The second disadvantage is of a more serious character:
the children proceeding from an unlegalised union have not the same rights
as those born in legal wedlock, do not inherit as of right, and have no
legal name. These injustices can be prevented by care in making
testamentary dispositions protecting them, and by registering the surname,
but the fact of the original unfairness still remains, and any
carelessness on the parents' part will result in real injury to the child.
It must also be remembered that the father, in such a case, has no rights
over his children, and this is as unfair to him as the reverse is to the
mother. As the law now is, both legal and illegal unions have
disadvantages connected with them, and there is only a choice between
evils; these evils are however, overwhelmingly greater on the side of
legal unions as may be seen by the foregoing sketch of the disabilities
imposed on women by marriage. So great are these that a wise and
self-respecting woman may well hesitate to enter into a contract of
marriage while the laws remain as they are, and a man who really honours a
woman must reluctantly subject her to the disadvantages imposed on the
English wife, when he asks her to take him as literally her master and,
owner. The relative position is as dishonouring to the man as it is
insulting to the woman, and good men revolt against it as hotly as do the
most high-spirited women. In happy marriages all these laws are ignored,
and it is only at rare intervals that the married pair become conscious of
their existence. Some argue that this being so, small practical harm
results from the legal injustice; it would be as sensible to argue that as
honest people do not want to thieve, it would not be injurious to public
morality to have laws on the statute book legalising garotting. Laws are
made to prevent injustice being committed with impunity, and it is a
curious reversal of every principle of legislation to make laws which
protect wrongdoing, and which can only be defended on the ground that they
are not generally enforced. If the English marriage laws were universally
carried out, marriage would not last for a month in England; as it is,
vast numbers of women suffer in silence, thousands rebel and break their
chains, and on every side men and women settle down into a mutual
tolerance which is simply an easy-going indifference, accepted as the only
possible substitute for the wedded happiness which they once dreamed of in
youth, but have failed to realise in their maturity.</p>
<p>Things being as they are, what is the best action for those to take who
desire to see a healthier and purer sexual morality—a morality
founded upon equal rights and diverse duties harmoniously discharged? The
first step is to agitate for a reform of the marriage laws by the passing
of such an Act of Parliament as is alluded to above. It would be well for
some of those who desire to see such a legislative change to meet and
confer together on the steps to be taken to introduce such a Bill into the
House of Commons. If thought necessary, a Marriage Reform League might be
established, to organize the agitation and petitioning which are <i>de
rigueur</i>, in endeavouring to get a bill passed through the popular
House. Side by side with this effort to reform marriage abuses, should go
the determination not to contract a legal marriage while the laws remain
as immoral as they are. It is well known that the Quakers persistently
refused to go through the legal English form of marriage, and quietly made
their declarations according to their own conscience, submitting to the
disadvantages entailed on them by the illegality, until the legislature
formally recognised the Quaker declaration as a legal form of marriage.
Why should not we take a leaf out of the Quakers' book, and substitute for
the present legal forms of marriage a simple declaration publicly made? We
should differ from the Quakers in this, that we should not desire that
such declaration should be legalised while the marriage laws remain as
they are; but as soon as the laws are moralised, and wives are regarded as
self-possessing human beings, instead of as property, then the declaration
may, with advantage, seek the sanction of the law. It is not necessary
that the declaration should be couched in any special form of words; the
conditions of the contract ought to be left to the contracting parties.
What is necessary is that it should be a definite contract, and it is
highly advisable that it should be a contract in writing—a deed of
partnership, in fact, which should—when the law permits—be
duly stamped and registered. The law, while it does not dictate the
conditions of the contract, should enforce those conditions so long as the
contract exists; that is, it should interfere just as far as it does in
other contracts, and no further; the law has no right to dictate the terms
of the marriage contract; it is for the contracting parties to arrange
their own affairs as they will. While, however, the province of the law
should be thus limited in respect to the contracting parties, it has a
clear right to interfere in defence of the interests of any children who
may be born of the marriage, and to compel the parents to clothe, feed,
house, and educate them properly: this duty should, if need be, be
enforced on both parents alike, and the law should recognise and impose
the full discharge of the responsibilities of parents towards those to
whom they have given life. No marriage contract should be recognised by
the law which is entered into by minors; in this, as in other legal deeds,
there should be no capability to contract until the contracting parties
are of full age. A marriage is a partnership, and should be so regarded by
the law, and it should be the aim of those who are endeavouring to reform
marriage, to substitute for the present semi-barbarous laws a scheme which
shall be sober, dignified, and practicable, and which shall recognise the
vital interest of the community in the union of those who are to be the
parents of the next generation.</p>
<p>Such a deed as I propose would have no legal force at the present time;
and here arises a difficulty: might not a libertine take advantage of this
fact to desert his wife and possibly leave her with a child, or children,
on her hands; to the cold mercy of society which would not even recognize
her as a married woman? Men who, under the present state of the law,
seduce women and then desert them, would probably do the same if they had
gone through a form of marriage which had no legally binding force; but
such men are, fortunately, the exception, not the rule, and there is
no-reason to apprehend an increase of their number, owing to the proposed
action on the part of a number of thoughtful men and women who are
dissatisfied with the present state of the law, but who have no wish to
plunge into debauchery. I freely acknowledge that it is to be desired that
marriage should be legally binding, and that a father should be compelled
to do his share towards supporting his children; but while English law
imposes such a weight of disability on a married woman, and leaves her
utterly in the power of her husband, however unprincipled, oppressive, and
wicked he may be—short of legal crime—I take leave to think
that women have a fairer chance of happiness and comfort in an unlegalised
than in a legal marriage. There is many an unhappy woman who would be only
too glad if the libertine who has legally married her would desert her,
and leave her, even with the burden of a family, to make for herself and
her children, by her own toil, a home which should at least be pure,
peaceful, and respectable.</p>
<p>Let me, in concluding this branch of the subject, say a word to those who,
agreeing with Marriage Reform in principle, fear to openly put their
theory into practice. Some of these earnestly hope for change, but do not
dare to advocate it openly. Reforms have never been accomplished by
Reformers who had not the courage of their opinions. If all the men and
women who disapprove of the present immoral laws would sturdily <i>and
openly</i> oppose them; if those who desire to unite their lives, but are
determined not to submit to the English marriage laws, would publicly join
hands, making such a declaration as is here suggested, the social odium
would soon pass away, and the unlegalised marriage would be recognised as
a dignified and civilized substitute for the old brutal and savage
traditions. Most valuable work might here be done by men and women who—happy
in their own marriages—yet feel the immorality of the law, and
desire to see it changed. Such married people might support and strengthen
by their open countenance and friendship those who enter into the
unlegalised public unions here advocated; and they can do what no one else
can do so well: they can prove to English society—the most bigoted
and conservative society in the world—that advocacy of change in the
marriage laws does not mean the abolition of the home. The value of such
co-operation will be simply inestimable, and will do more than anything
else to render the reform practicable. Courage and quiet resolution are
needed, but, with these, this great social change may safely and speedily
be accomplished.</p>
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<h2> II. DIVORCE. </h2>
<p class="pfirst">
<span class="dropcap" style="font-size: 4.00em">A</span>ny proposed
reforms in the marriage laws of England would be extremely imperfect,
unless they dealt with the question of divorce. Marriage differs from all
ordinary contracts in the extreme difficulty of dissolving it—a
difficulty arising from the ecclesiastical character which has been
imposed upon it, and from the fact that it has been looked upon as a
religious bond instead of as a civil contract. Until the time of the
Reformation, marriage was regarded as a sacrament by all Christian people,
and it is so regarded by the majority of them up to the present day. When
the Reformers advocated divorce, it was considered as part of their
general heresy, and as proof of the immoral tendency of their doctrines.
Among Roman Catholics the sacramental—and therefore the indissoluble—character
of marriage is still maintained, but among Protestants divorce is
admitted, the laws regulating it varying much in different countries.</p>
<p>In England—owing to the extreme conservatism of the English in all
domestic matters—the Protestant view of marriage made its way very
slowly. Divorce remained within the jurisdiction of ecclesiastical courts,
and these granted only divorces <i>a mensâ et thoro</i> in cases where
cruelty or adultery was pleaded as rendering conjugal life impossible.
These courts never granted divorces a <i>vinculo matrimonii</i>, which
permit either—or both—of the divorced persons to contract a
fresh marriage, except in cases where the marriage was annulled as having
been void from the beginning; they would only grant a separation "from bed
and board," and imposed celibacy on the divorced couple until one of them
died, and so set the other free. There was indeed a report drawn up by a
commission, under the authority of 3 and 4 Edward VI., c. ii., which was
intended as a basis for the re-modelling of the marriage laws, but the
death of the king prevented the proposed reform; the ecclesiastical courts
remained as they were, and absolute divorce was unattainable. Natural
impatience of a law which separated unhappy married people only to impose
celibacy on them, caused occasional applications to be made to Parliament
for relief, and a few marriages were thus dissolved under exceptional
circumstances. In 1701, a bill was obtained, enabling a petitioner to
re-marry, and in 1798, Lord Loughborough's "Orders" were passed. By these
orders, no petition could be presented to the House, unless an official
copy of the proceedings, and of a definitive sentence of divorce, <i>a
mensâ et thoro</i>, in the ecclesiastical courts, was delivered on oath at
the bar of the House at the same time (Broom's "Comm.," vol. iii. p. 396).
After explaining the procedure of the ecclesiastical court, Broom goes on:
"A definitive sentence of divorce <i>a mensâ et thoro</i> being thus
obtained, the petitioner proceeded to lay his case before the House of
Lords in accordance with the Standing Orders before adverted to, and,
subject to his proving the case, he obtained a bill divorcing him from the
bonds of matrimony, and allowing him to marry again. The provisions of the
bill, which was very short, were generally these:—1. The marriage
was dissolved. 2. The husband was empowered to marry again. 3. He was
given the rights of a husband as to any property of an after-taken wife.
4. The divorced wife was deprived of any right she might have as his
widow. 5. Her after-acquired property was secured to her as against the
husband from whom she was divorced. In the case of the wife obtaining the
bill, similar provisions were made in her favour" (p. 398). In 1857, an
Act was passed establishing a Court for Divorce and Matrimonial Causes,
and thus a great step forward was taken: this court was empowered to grant
a judicial separation—equivalent to the old divorce <i>a mensâ et
thoro</i>—in cases of cruelty, desertion for two years and upwards,
or adultery on the part of the husband; it was further empowered to grant
an absolute divorce with right of re-marriage—equivalent to the old
divorce <i>a vinculo matrimonii</i>—in cases of adultery on the part
of the wife, or of, on the part of the husband, incestuous adultery, or of
bigamy with adultery, or of rape, or an unnatural crime, or of adultery
coupled with such cruelty as would formerly have entitled her to a divorce
<i>a mensâ et thoro</i>, or of adultery coupled with desertion, without
reasonable excuse, for two years or upwards (Broom, vol. i., p. 542). The
other powers held by the court need not now be specially dwelt upon.</p>
<p>The first reform here needed is that husband and wife should be placed on
a perfect equality in asking for a divorce: at present if husband and wife
be living apart, no amount of adultery on the husband's part can release
the wife; if they be living together, a husband may keep as many
mistresses as he will, and, provided that he carefully avoid any roughness
which can be construed into legal cruelty, he is perfectly safe from any
suit for dissolution of marriage. Adultery alone, when committed by the
husband, is not ground for a dissolution of marriage; it must be coupled
with some additional offence before the wife can obtain her freedom. But
the husband can obtain a dissolution of marriage for adultery committed by
the wife, and he can further obtain money damages from the co-respondent,
as a <i>solatium</i> to his wounded feelings. Divorce should be absolutely
equal as between husband and wife: adultery on either side should be
sufficient, and if it be thought necessary to join a male co-respondent
when the husband is the injured party, then it should also be necessary to
join a female co-respondent where the wife brings the suit. The principle,
then, which should be laid down as governing all cases of divorce, is that
no difference should be made in favour of either side; whatever is
sufficient to break the marriage in the one case should be sufficient to
break it in the other.</p>
<p>Next, the system of judicial separation should be entirely swept away.
Wherever divorce is granted at all, the divorce should be absolute. No
useful end is gained by divorcing people practically and regarding them as
married legally. A technical tie is kept up, which retains on the wife the
mass of disabilities which flow from marriage, while depriving her of all
the privileges, and which widows both man and woman, exiling them from
home-life and debarring them from love. Judicial separation is a direct
incentive to licentiousness and secret sexual intercourse; the partially
divorced husband, refused any recognised companion, either indulges in
promiscuous lust, to the ruin of his body and mind, or privately lives
with some woman whom the law forbids him to marry and whom he is ashamed
to openly acknowledge. Meanwhile the semi-divorced wife can obtain no
relief, and is compelled to live on, without the freedom of the spinster
or the widow, or the social consideration of the married woman. She can
only obtain freedom by committing what the law and society brand as
adultery; if she has any scruples on this head, she must remain alone,
unloved and without home, living a sad, solitary life until death, more
merciful than the law, sets her free.</p>
<p>It is hard to see what object there can be in separating a married couple,
in breaking up the home, dividing the children, and yet maintaining the
fact of marriage just so far as shall prevent the separated couple from
forming new ties; the position of those who regard divorce as altogether
sinful, is intelligible, however mistaken; but the position of those who
advocate divorce, but object to the divorced couple having the right of
contracting a new marriage, is wholly incomprehensible. No one profits by
such divorce, while the separated couple are left in a dubious and most
unsatisfactory condition; they are neither married nor unmarried; they can
never shake themselves free from the links of the broken chain; they carry
about with them the perpetual mark of their misfortune, and can never
escape from the blunder committed in their youth. They would be the
happier, and society would be the healthier, if the divorce of life and of
interests were also a divorce which should set them free to seek
happiness, if they will, in other unions—free technically as well as
really, free in law as well as in fact.</p>
<p>If it be admitted that all divorce should be absolute, the question
arises: What should be the ground of divorce? First, adultery, because
breach of faith on either side should void the contract which implies
loyalty to each other; the legal costs of both should fall on the breaker
of the contract, but no damages should be recoverable against a third
party. Next, cruelty, because where the weaker party suffers from the
abuse of power of the stronger, there the law should, when appealed to,
step in to annul the contract, which is thus a source of injury to one of
the contracting parties; if a man be brought up before the magistrate
charged with wife-beating or violence of any kind towards his wife, and be
convicted and sentenced, the Divorce Court should, on the demand of the
wife, the record being submitted to it, pronounce a sentence of divorce;
in the rare case of violence committed by a wife on her husband, the same
result should accrue; the custody of the children should be awarded to the
innocent party, since neither a man nor a woman convicted of doing bodily
harm to another is fit to be trusted with the guardianship of a child. *
The next distinct ground of divorce should be habitual drunkenness;
drunkenness causes misery to the sober partner, and is ruinous in its
effect, both on the <i>physique</i> and on the character of the children
proceeding from the marriage. Here, of course, the custody of the children
should be committed entirely to the innocent parent.</p>
<p>* Since these lines were published in the National Reformer,<br/>
a clause has been inserted in a bill now before Parliament,<br/>
empowering magistrates to grant an order of separation to a<br/>
wife? if it is proved that she has been cruelly ill-used by<br/>
her husband, and further compelling the husband, in such a<br/>
case, to contribute a weekly sum towards her maintenance.<br/>
This will be a great improvement on the present state of<br/>
things, but absolute divorce would be better than mere<br/>
separation.<br/></p>
<p>At present, the usual unfairness presides over the arrangements as to
access to the children by the parents: "In the case of a mother who is
proved guilty of adultery, she is usually debarred from such access,
though it has not been the practice to treat the offending father with the
same rigour" (Broom's "Comm.," vol. iii., p. 404). In all cases of divorce
the interests of the children should be carefully guarded; both parents
should be compelled to contribute to their support, whether the
guardianship be confided to the father or to the mother.</p>
<p>These glaring reasons for granting a divorce will be admitted by everyone
who recognises the reasonableness of divorce at all, but there will be
more diversity of opinion as to the advisability of making divorce far
more easily attainable. The French Convention of 1792 set an example that
has been only too little followed; for the first time in French history
divorce was legalised in France. It was obtainable "on the application of
either party [to the marriage] alleging simply as a cause, incompatibility
of humour or character. The female children were to be entirely confided
to the care of the mother, as well as the males, to the age of seven
years, when the latter were again to be re-committed to the
superintendence of the father; provided only, that by mutual agreement any
other arrangement might take place with respect to the disposal of the
children; or arbitrators might be chosen by the nearest of kin to
determine on the subject. The parents were to contribute equally to the
maintenance of the children, in proportion to their property, whether
under the care of the father or mother. Family arbitrators were to be
chosen to direct with respect to the partition of the property, or the
alimentary pension to be allowed to the party divorced. Neither of the
parties could contract a new marriage for the space of one year"
("Impartial History of the Late Revolution," vol. ii., pp. 179, 180). This
beneficial law was swept away, with many other useful changes, when
tyranny came back to France. At the present time the only countries where
divorce is easily obtainable are some of the states of Germany and of
America. It has been held in at least one American state that proved
incompatibility of temper was sufficient ground for separation. And
reasonably so; if two people enter into a contract for their mutual
comfort and advantage, and the contract issues in mutual misery and loss,
why should not the contract be dissolved? It is urged that marriage would
be dishonoured if divorce were easily attainable; surely marriage is far
more dishonoured by making it a chain to tie together two people who have
for each other neither affection nor respect. For the sake of everyone
concerned an unhappy marriage should be easily dissoluble; the married
couple would be the happier and the better for the separation; their
children—if they have any—would be saved from the evil effect
of continual family jars, and from the loss of respect for their parents
caused by the spectacle of constant bickering; the household would be
spared the evil example of the quarrels of its heads; society would see
less vice and fewer scandalous divorce suits. In all cases of contract,
save that of marriage, those who make can, by mutual consent, unmake; why
should those who make the most important contract of all be deprived of
the same right?</p>
<p>Mr. John Stuart Mill, dealing very briefly with the marriage contract in
his essay "On Liberty," points out that the fulfilment of obligations
incurred by marriage must not be forgotten when the contract is dissolved,
since these "must be greatly affected by the continuance or disruption of
the relation between the original parties to the contract." But he goes on
to say: "It does not follow, nor can I admit, that these obligations
extend to requiring the fulfilment of the contract at all costs to the
happiness of the reluctant party; but they are a necessary element in the
question; and even if, as Von Humboldt maintains, they ought to make no
difference in the <i>legal</i> freedom of the parties to release
themselves from the engagement (and I also hold that they ought not to
make <i>much</i> difference), they necessarily make a great difference in
the <i>moral</i> freedom. A person is bound to take all these
circumstances into account before resolving on a step which may affect
such important interests of others; and if he does not allow proper weight
to those interests, he is morally responsible for the wrong. I have made
these obvious remarks for the better illustration of the general principle
of liberty, and not because they are at all needed on the particular
question, which, on the contrary, is usually discussed as if the interest
of children was everything, and that of grown persons nothing" (p. 61).
The essay of Von Humboldt, referred to by Mr. Mill, is that on the "Sphere
and Duties of Government;" Von Humboldt argues that "even where there is
nothing to be objected to the validity of a contract, the State should
have the power of lessening the restrictions which men impose on one
another, even with their own consent, and by facilitating the release from
such engagements of preventing a moment's decision from hindering their
freedom of action for too long a period of life" (p. 134, of Coulthard's
translation). After pointing out that contracts relating to the transfer
of <i>things</i> should be binding, Von Humboldt proceeds: "With contracts
which render personal performance a duty, or still more with those which
produce proper personal relations, the case is wholly different. With
these coercion operates hurtfully on man's noblest powers; and since the
success of the pursuit itself which is to be conducted in accordance with
the contract, is more or less dependent on the continuing consent of the
parties, a limitation of such a kind is in them productive of less serious
injury. When, therefore, such a personal relation arises from the contract
as not only to require certain single actions, but, in the strictest
sense, to affect the person, and influence the whole manner of his
existence; where that which is done, or left undone, is in the closest
dependence on internal sensations, the option of separation should always
remain open, and the step itself should not require any extenuating
reasons. Thus it is with matrimony" (pp. 134-135).</p>
<p>Robert Dale Owen—the virtuous and justly revered author of "Moral
Physiology;" a man so respected in his adopted country, the United States
of America, that he was elected as one of its senators, and was appointed
American ambassador at the Court of Naples—Robert Dale Owen, in a
letter to Thomas Whittemore, editor of the Boston Trumpet, May, 1831,
deals as follows with the contract of marriage:—</p>
<p>"I do not think it virtuous or rational in a man and woman solemnly to
swear that they will love and honour each other until death part them.
First, because if affection or esteem on either side should afterwards
cease (as, alas! we often see it cease), the person who took the
marriage-oath has perjured himself; secondly, because I have observed that
such an oath, being substituted for the noble and elevating principle of
moral obligation, has a tendency to weaken that principle.</p>
<p>"You will probably ask me whether I should equally object to a solemn
promise to live together during life whatever happens. I do not think this
<i>equally</i> objectionable, because it is an explicit promise possible
to be kept; whereas the oath to love until death, may become impossible of
fulfilment. But still I do not approve even this possible promise; and I
will give you the reasons why I do not.</p>
<p>"That a man and woman should occupy the same house, and daily enjoy each
other's society, so long as such an association gives birth to virtuous
feelings, to kindness, to mutual forbearance, to courtesy, to
disinterested affection, I consider right and proper. That they should
continue to inhabit the same house and to meet daily, in case such
intercourse should give birth to vicious feelings, to dislike, to ill
temper, to scolding, to a carelessness of each other's comfort and a want
of respect for each other's feelings,—this I consider, <i>when the
two individuals alone are concerned</i>, neither right nor proper; neither
conducive to good order nor to virtue. I do not think it well, therefore,
to promise, at all hazards, to live together for life.</p>
<p>"Such a view may be offensive to orthodoxy, but surely, surely it is
approved by common sense. Ask yourself, sir, who is—who can be the
gainer—the man, the woman, or society at large—by two persons
living in discord rather than parting in peace, as Abram and Lot did when
their herdsmen could not agree. We have temptations enough already to ill
humour in the world, without expressly creating them for ourselves; and of
all temptations to that worst of petty vices, domestic bickering, can we
suppose one more strong or more continually active than a forced
association in which the heart has no share? Do not the interests of
virtue and good order, then, imperiously demand (as the immortal author of
'Paradise Lost' argued, in his celebrated work 'On Divorce,') that the law
should abstain from perpetuating any association, after it has become a
daily source of vice?</p>
<p>"If children's welfare is concerned, and that they will be injured by a
separation, the case is different. Those who impart existence to sentient
beings are, in my view, responsible to them for as much happiness as it is
in their power to bestow. The parent voluntarily assumes this greatest of
responsibilities; and he who, having so assumed it, trifles with his
child's best interests for his own selfish gratification, is, in my eyes,
utterly devoid of moral principle; or, at the least, utterly blind to the
most sacred duty which a human being can be called to perform. If,
therefore, the well-being and future prosperity of the children are to be
sacrificed by a separation of the parents, then I would positively object
to the separation, however grievous the evil effects of a continued
connection might be to the dissentient couple.</p>
<p>"Whether the welfare of children is ever promoted by the continuation of
an ill-assorted union, is another question; as also in what way they ought
to be provided for, where a separation actually takes place.</p>
<p>"But to regard, for the moment, the case of the adults alone. You will
remark, that it is no question for us to determine whether it is better or
more proper that affection, once conceived, should last through life. We
might as well sit down to decree whether the sun should shine or be hid
under a cloud, or whether the wind should blow a storm or a gentle breeze.
We may rejoice when it does so last, and grieve when it does not; but as
to legislating about the matter, it is the idlest of absurdities.</p>
<p>"But we <i>can</i> determine by law the matter of living together. We may
compel a man and woman, though they hate each other as cordially as any of
Byron's heroes, to have one common name, one common interest, and
(nominally) one common bed and board. We may invest them with the legal
appearance of the closest friends while they are the bitterest enemies. It
seems to me that mankind have seldom considered what are the actual
advantages of such a proceeding to the individuals and to society. I
confess that I do not see what is gained in so unfortunate a situation, by
keeping up the appearance when the reality is gone.</p>
<p>"I do see the necessity, in such a case, if the man and woman separate, of
dividing what property they may possess equally between them; and (while
the present monopoly of profitable occupations by men lasts) I also see
the expediency, in case the property so divided be not sufficient for the
woman's comfortable support, of causing the man to continue to contribute
a fair proportion of his earnings towards it. I also see the impropriety,
as I said before, that the children, if any there be, should suffer. But I
cannot see who is the gainer by obliging two persons to continue in each
other's society, when heart-burnings, bickerings, and other vicious
results, are to be the consequence.</p>
<p>"There are cases when affection ceases on one side and remains on the
other. No one can deny that this is an evil, often a grievous one; but I
cannot perceive how the law can remedy it, or soften its bitterness, any
more than it can legislate away the pain caused by unreturned friendship
between persons of the same sex.</p>
<p>"You will ask me, perhaps, whether I do not believe that, but for the law,
there would be a continual and selfish change indulged, without regard to
the feelings or welfare of others. What there might be in the world,
viciously trained and circumstanced as so many human beings now are, I
know not, though I doubt whether things <i>could</i> be much worse than
they are now; besides that no human power can legislate for the heart. But
if men and women were trained (as they so easily might!) to be even
decently regardful of each other's feelings, may we not assert positively,
that no such result could, possibly happen? Let me ask each one of your
readers, and let each answer to his or her own heart: 'Are you indeed
bound to those you profess to love and honour by the law <i>alone?</i>
Alas! for your chance of happiness, if the answer be 'Yes!'"</p>
<p>The fact is, as Mr. Owen justly says, that a promise to "love... until
death us do part" is an immoral promise, because its performance is beyond
the power of those who give the promise. To love, or not to love, is not a
matter of the will; Love in chains loses his life, and only leaves a
corpse in his captive's hand. Love is, of its very nature, voluntary,
freely given, drawing together by an irresistible sympathy those whose
natures are adapted to each other. Shelley well says, in one of the notes
on Queen Mab: "Love is inevitably consequent on the perception of
loveliness. Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty; it
is compatible neither with obedience, jealousy, nor fear; it is there most
pure, perfect and unlimited, where its votaries live in confidence,
equality, and unreserve." To say this, is not to say that higher duty may
not come between the lovers, may not, for a time, keep them apart, may not
even render their union impossible; it is only to recognize a fact that no
thoughtful person can deny, and to show how utterly wrong and foolish it
is to promise for life, that which can never be controlled by the will.</p>
<p>But marriage, it is said, would be too lightly entered into if it were so
easily dissoluble. Why? People do not rush into endless partnerships
because they are dissoluble at pleasure; on the contrary, such
partnerships last just so long as they are beneficial to the contracting
parties. In the same way, marriage would last exactly so long as its
continuance was beneficial, and no longer: when it became hurtful, it
would be dissolved. "How long then," asks Shelley, "ought the sexual
connection to last? what law ought to specify the extent of the grievances
which should limit its duration? A husband and wife ought to continue so
long united as they love each other; any law which should bind them to
cohabitation for one moment after the decay of their affection, would be a
most intolerable tyranny, and the most unworthy of toleration. How odious
a usurpation of the right of private judgment should that law be
considered which should make the ties of friendship indissoluble, in spite
of the caprices, the inconstancy, the fallibility and capacity for
improvement of the human mind. And by so much would the fetters of love be
heavier and more unendurable than those of friendship, as love is more
vehement and capricious, more dependent on those delicate peculiarities of
imagination, and less capable of reduction to the ostensible merits of the
object.... The connection of the sexes is so long sacred as it contributes
to the comfort of the parties, and is naturally dissolved when its evils
are greater than its benefits. There is nothing immoral in this
separation" (Notes on "Queen Mab"). In spite of this facility of divorce,
marriage would be the most enduring of all partnerships; not only is there
between married couples the tie of sexual affection, but around them grows
up a hedge of common thoughts, common interests, common memories, that, as
years go on, makes the idea of separation more and more repulsive. It
would only be where the distaste had grown strong enough to break through
all these, that divorce would take place, and in such cases the misery of
the enforced common life would be removed without harm to any one. Of
course, this facility of divorce will entirely sweep away those odious
suits for "restitution of conjugal rights" which occasionally disgrace our
courts. If a husband and wife are living apart, without legal sanction, it
is now open to either of them to bring a suit for restitution of conjugal
rights. "The decree of restitution pronounces for the marriage, admonishes
the respondent to take the petitioner home and treat him or her as husband
or wife, and to render him or her conjugal rights; and, further, to
certify to the court, within a certain time, that he or she had done so;
in default of which, an attachment for contempt of court will be issued
against the offending party" (Broom's "Comm.," vol. iii., p. 400). It is
difficult to understand how any man or woman, endued with the most
rudimentary sense of decency, can bring such a suit, and, after having
succeeded, can enforce the decision. We may hope that, as sexual morality
becomes more generally recognised, it will be seen that the essence of
prostitution lies in the union of the sexes without mutual love; when a
woman marries for rank, for title, for wealth, she sells herself as
veritably as her poorer and more unfortunate sister; love alone makes the
true marriage, love which is loyal to the beloved, and is swayed by no
baser motive than passionate devotion to its object. When no such love
exists the union which is marriage by law is nothing higher than legalised
prostitution: the enforcement on an unwilling man or woman of conjugal
rights is something even still lower, it is legalised rape.</p>
<p>It may be hoped that when divorce is more easily obtainable, the majority
of marriages will be far happier than they are now. Half the unhappiness
of married life arises from the too great feeling of security which grows
out of the indissoluble character of the tie. The husband is very
different from the lover; the wife from the betrothed; the ready
attention, the desire to please, the eager courtesy, which characterised
the lover disappear when possession has become certain; the daintiness,
the gaiety, the attractiveness which marked the betrothed, are no longer
to be seen in the wife whose position is secure; in society a lover may be
known by his attention to his betrothed, a husband by his indifference to
his wife. If divorce were the result of jarring at home, married life
would very rapidly change; hard words, harshness, petulance, would be
checked where those who had won the love desired to keep it, and
attractiveness would no longer be dropped on the threshold of the home.
Here, too, Shelley's words are well worth weighing: "The present system of
restraint does no more, in the majority of instances, than make hypocrites
or open enemies. Persons of delicacy and virtue, unhappily united to those
whom they find it impossible to love, spend the loveliest season of their
life in unproductive efforts to appear otherwise than they are, for the
sake of the feelings of their partner, or the welfare of their mutual
offspring; those of less generosity and refinement openly avow their
disappointment, and linger out the remnant of that union, which only death
can dissolve, in a state of incurable bickering and hostility. The early
education of the children takes its colour from the squabbles of the
parents; they are nursed in a systematic school of ill-humour, violence
and falsehood. Had they been suffered to part at the moment when
indifference rendered their union irksome, they would have been spared
many years of misery: they would have connected themselves more suitably,
and would have found that happiness in the society of more congenial
partners which is for ever denied them by the despotism of marriage. They
would have been separately useful and happy members of society, who,
whilst united, were miserable, and rendered misanthropical by misery. The
conviction that wedlock is indissoluble, holds out the strongest of all
temptations to the perverse; they indulge without restraint in acrimony,
and all the little tyrannies of domestic life, when they know that their
victim is without appeal. If this conviction were put on a rational basis,
each would be assured that habitual ill-temper would terminate in
separation, and would check this vicious and dangerous propensity" (Notes
on "Queen Mab"). To those who had thought over the subject carefully, it
was no surprise to hear Mr. Moncure Conway say—in a debate on
marriage at the Dialectical Society—that in Illinois, U.S.A., where
there is great facility of divorce, the marriages were exceptionally
happy. The reason was not far to seek.</p>
<p>Dealing elsewhere with this same injurious effect of overcertainty on the
relations of married people to each other, Mr. Moncure Conway writes as
follows:—"In England we smilingly walk our halls of Eblis, covering
the fatal wound; but our neighbours across the Channel are frank. Their
moralists cannot blot out the proverb that 'Marriage is the suicide of
love.' Is it any truer here than there that, as a general thing, the
courtesies of the courtship survive in the marriage? 'Who is that domino
walking with George?' asks Grisette No. 1, as, reported by <i>Charivari</i>.
'Why,' returns Grisette No. 2, 'do you not walk behind them, and listen to
what they say?' 'I have done so, and they do not say a word.' 'Ah, it is
his wife.' But what might be George's feeling if he knew his wife might
leave him some morning? 'If conserve of roses be frequently eaten.' they
say in Persia, 'it will produce a surfeit.' The thousands of husbands and
wives yawning in each other's faces at this moment need not go so far for
their proverb. If it be well, as it seems to me to be, that this most
intimate relation between man and woman should be made as durable as the
object for which it is formed will admit, surely the bond should be real
to the last, a bond of kindliness, thoughtfulness, actual helpfulness. So
long as the strength of the bond lies simply in the disagreeable
concomitants of breaking it, so long as it is protected by the very iron
hardness which makes it gall and oppress, what need is there of the
reinforcement of it by the cultivation of minds, the preservation of good
temper, and considerate behaviour? Love is not quite willing to accept the
judge's mace for his arrow. When the law no longer supplies husband or
wife with a cage, each must look to find and make available what resources
he or she has for holding what has been won. We may then look for sober
second thoughts both before and after marriage. Love, from so long having
bandaged eyes, will be all eye. Every real attraction will be stimulated
when all depends upon real attraction. When the conserve becomes
fatiguing, it will be refreshed by a new flavour, not by a certificate.
From the hour when a thought of obligation influences either party to it,
the marriage becomes a prostitution." ("The Earthward Pilgrimage," pp.
289, 290, 291).</p>
<p>A remarkable instance of the permanence of unions dissoluble at pleasure
is to be found related by Robert Dale Owen, in an article entitled
"Marriage and Placement," which appeared in the <i>Free Inquirer</i> of
May 28, 1831. It deals with the unions between the sexes in the Haytian
Republic, and the facts therein related are well worthy of serious
attention. Mr. Owen writes:—</p>
<p>"Legal marriage is common in St. Domingo as elsewhere. Prostitution, too,
exists there as in other countries. But this institution of <i>placement</i>
is found nowhere, that I know of, but among the Haytians.</p>
<p>"Those who choose to marry, are united, as in other countries, by a priest
or magistrate. Those who do not choose to marry, and who equally shrink
from the mercenary embrace of prostitution, are (in the phraseology of the
island) <i>placés</i>: that is, literally translated, <i>placed.</i></p>
<p>"The difference between <i>placement</i> and marriage is, that the former
is entered into without any prescribed form, the latter with the usual
ceremonies: the former is dissoluble at a day's warning, the latter is
indissoluble except by the vexatious and degrading formalities of divorce;
the former is a tacit social compact, the latter a legal compulsory one;
in the former the woman gives up her name and her property; in the latter,
she retains both.</p>
<p>"Marriage and placement are, in Hayti, equally respectable, or, if there
be a difference, it is in favour of placement; and in effect ten
placements take place in the island for one marriage. <i>Pétion</i>, the
Jefferson of Hayti, * sanctioned the custom by his approval and example.
<i>Boyer</i>, his successor, the president, did the same; ** and by far
the largest portion of the respectable inhabitants have imitated their
presidents, and are <i>placed</i>, not married. The children of the placed
have, in every particular, the same legal rights and the same standing as
those born in wedlock.</p>
<p>* "It may suffice, in illustration of Pétion's character, to<br/>
quote the touching inscription found on his tomb—'Here lies<br/>
Pétion, who enjoyed for twelve years absolute power, and<br/>
during that period never caused one tear to flow.'"<br/>
<br/>
** "Boyer's resolution in this matter is the more<br/>
remarkable, as he has been urged and pestered to submit to<br/>
the forms of marriage. Grégoire, archbishop of Blois, and<br/>
who is well known for the perseverance and benevolence with<br/>
which he has, for a long series of years, advocated the<br/>
cause of the African race, wrote to the president of Hayti<br/>
in the most urgent terms, pressing upon him the virtue—the<br/>
necessity, for his salvation—of conforming to the sacrament<br/>
of marriage. To such a degree did the good old archbishop<br/>
carry his intermeddling officiousness, that when Boyer<br/>
mildly but firmly declined availing himself of his grace's<br/>
advice, a rupture was the consequence, greatly to the sorrow<br/>
of the president, who had ever entertained the greatest<br/>
respect and affection for his ecclesiastical friend."<br/></p>
<p>"I imagine I hear from the clerical supporters of orthodoxy one general
burst of indignation at this sample of national profligacy; at this
contemning of the laws of God and man; at this escape from the Church's
ceremonies and the ecclesiastical blessing. I imagine I hear the question
sneeringly put, how long these same <i>respectable</i> connections
commonly last, and how many dozen times they are changed in the course of
a year.</p>
<p>"Gently, my reverend friends! it is natural you should find it wrong that
men and women dispense with your services and curtail your fees in this
matter. But it is neither just nor proper, that because no prayers are
said, and no fees paid, you should denounce the custom as a profligate
one. Learn (as I did the other day from an intelligent French gentleman
who had remained some time on the island)—learn, that <i>although
there are ten times as many placed as married, yet there are actually
fewer separations among the former than divorces among the latter</i>. If
constancy, then, is to be the criterion of morality, these same profligate
unions—that is, unions unprayed-for by the priest and unpaid for to
him—are ten times as moral as the religion-sanctioned institution of
marriage.</p>
<p>"But this is not all. It is a fact notorious in Hayti, that libertinism is
far more common among the married than among the placed. The explanatory
cause is easily found. A placement secures to the consenting couple no <i>legal</i>
right over one another. They remain together, as it were, on good
behaviour. Not only positive tyranny or downright viragoism, but petulant
peevishness or selfish ill humour, are sufficient causes of separation. As
such, they are avoided with sedulous care. The natural consequence is,
that the unions are usually happy, and that each being comfortable at
home, is not on the search for excitement abroad. In indissoluble
marriage, on the contrary, if the parties should happen to disagree, their
first jarrings are unchecked by considerations of consequences. A husband
may be as tyrannical as to him seems good; he remains a lord and master
still; a wife may be as pettish as she pleases; she does not thereby
forfeit the rights and privileges of a wife. Thus, ill humour is
encouraged by being legalized, and the natural results ensue, alienation
of the heart, and sundering of the affections. The wife seeks relief in
fashionable dissipation; the husband, perhaps, in the brutalities of a
brothel.</p>
<p>"But, aside from all explanatory theories, the fact is, as I have stated
it, viz.: that (taking the proportion of each into account) <i>there are
ten legal separations of the married, for one voluntary separation of the
placed</i>. If anyone doubts it, let him inquire for himself, and he will
doubt no longer.</p>
<p>"What say you to that fact, my reverend friends? How consorts it with your
favourite theory, that man is a profligate animal, a desperately wicked
creature? that, but for your prayers and blessings, the earth would be a
scene of licentiousness and excess? that human beings remain together,
only because you have helped to tie them? that there is no medium between
priestly marriage and unseemly prostitution?</p>
<p>"Does this fact open your eyes a little on the real state of things to
which we heterodox spirits venture to look forward? Does it assist in
explaining to you how it is that we are so much more willing than you to
entrust the most sacred duties to moral rather than legal keeping?</p>
<p>"You cannot imagine that a man and a woman, finding themselves suited to
each other, should agree, without your interference, to become companions;
that he should remove to her plantation, or she to his, as they found it
most convenient; that the connection should become known to their friends
without the agency of banns, and be respected, even though not
ostentatiously announced in a newspaper. Yet all this happens in Hayti,
without any breach of propriety, without any increase of vice; but, on the
contrary, much to the benefit of morality, and the discouragement of
prostitution. It happens among the white as well as the coloured
population; and the president of the country gives it his sanction, in his
own person.</p>
<p>"Do you still ask me—accustomed as you are to consider virtue the
offspring of restrictions—do you still ask me, what the checks are
that produce and preserve such a state of things? I reply, good feeling
and public opinion. Continual change is held to be disreputable; where
sincere and well-founded affection exists, it is not desired; and as there
is no pecuniary inducement in forming a placement, these voluntary unions
are seldom ill-assorted."</p>
<p>Where social anarchy is feared, facts like these are worth pages of
argument. If the Haytians are civilised enough for this more moral kind of
marriage, why should Europeans be on a lower level? For it should not be
forgotten that the experiment was tried in St. Domingo under great
disadvantages, and these unlegalised unions have yet proved more permanent
than those tied with all due formality and tightness.</p>
<p>It may be urged: if divorce is to be so easily attainable, why should
there be a marriage contract at all? Both as regards the pair immediately
concerned, and as regards the children who may result from the union, a
clear and definite contract seems to me to be eminently desirable. It is
not to be wished that the union of those on whom depends the next
generation should be carelessly and lightly entered into; the dignity and
self-recollection which a definite compact implies are by no means to be
despised, when it is remembered how grave and weighty are the
responsibilities assumed by those who are to give to the State new
citizens, and to Humanity new lives, which must be either a blessing or a
curse. But the dignity of such a course is not its only, nor, indeed, its
main, recommendation. More important is the absolute necessity that the
conditions of the union of the two adult lives should be clearly and
thoroughly understood between them. No wise people enter into engagements
of an important and durable character without a written agreement; a
definite contract excludes all chance of disagreement as to the
arrangements made, and prevents misunderstandings from arising. A verbal
contract may be misunderstood by either party; lapse of time may bring
about partial forgetfulness; slight disagreements may result in grave
quarrels. If the contract be a written one, it speaks for itself, and no
doubt can arise which cannot be reasonably settled. All this is readily
seen where ordinary business partnerships are concerned, but some—unconsciously
rebounding from the present immoral system, and plunging into the opposite
extreme—consider that the union in marriage of man and woman is too
tender and sacred a thing to be thus dealt with as from a business point
of view. But it must be remembered that while love is essential to true
and holy marriage, marriage implies more than love; it implies also a
number of new relations to the outside world which—while men and
women live in the world—cannot be wholly disregarded. Questions of
house, of money, of credit, &c., necessarily arise in connection with
the dual home, and these cannot be ignored by sensible men and women. The
contract does not touch with rude hands the sensitive plant of love; it
concerns itself only with the garden in which the plant grows, and two
people can no more live on love alone than a plant can grow without earth
around its roots. A contract which removes occasions of disagreement in
business matters shelters and protects the love from receiving many a rude
shock. "Society will ere long," said Mr. Conway, "be glad enough to
assimilate contracts between man and woman to contracts between partners
in business. Then love will dispense alike with the bandage on its eyes
and the constable's aid." Some pre-nuptial arrangement seems necessary
which shall decide as to the right of inheritance of the survivor of the
married pair. As common property will grow up during the union, such
property should pass to the survivor and the children, and until some law
be made which shall prevent parents from alienating from their children
the whole of their property, a provision guarding their inheritance should
find its place in the proposed deed. A definite marriage contract is also
desirable for the sake of the children who may proceed from the union.
Society has a right to demand from those who bring new members into it,
some contract which shall enable it to compel them to discharge their
responsibilities, if they endeavour to avoid them. If all men and women
were perfect, no contract would be necessary, any more than it would be
necessary to have laws against murder and theft; but while men and women
are as they are, some compulsive power against evil-doers must be held in
reserve by the law. Society is bound to guard the interests of the
helpless children, and this can only be done by a clear and definite
arrangement which makes both father and mother responsible for the lives
they have brought into existence, and which shows the parentage in a
fashion which could go into a law-court should any dispute arise. Again,
if there were no contract, in whom would the guardianship of the children
be vested, in case of wrongdoing of either parent, of death, or of
separation? Suppose a brutal father: his wife leaves him and takes the
children with her; how is she to keep them if he claims and takes them? If
she has the legal remedy of divorce, the Court awards her the guardianship
and she is safe from molestation. If a wife elope, taking the children
with her, is the father to have no right to the guardianship of his sons
and daughters, but to remain passive while they pass under the authority
of another man? Application for divorce would guard him from such a wrong.
If the parents separate, and both desire to have the children, how can
such contest be decided, save by appeal to an impartial law? Marriage, as
before urged, is a partnership, and where common duties, common interests,
and common responsibilities grow up, there it is necessary that either
party shall have some legal means of redress in case of the wrongdoing of
the other.</p>
<p>To those who, on the other hand, object to facility of divorce being
granted at all, it may fairly be asked that they should not forget that to
place divorce within the reach of people, is not the same as compelling
them to submit to it. Those who prefer to regard marriage as indissoluble
could as readily maintain the indissolubility of their own wedded tie
under a law which permitted divorce, as they can do at the present time.
But those who think otherwise, and are unhappy in their marriages, would
then be able to set themselves free. No happy marriage would be affected
by the change, for the attainability of divorce would only be welcomed by
those whose marriage was a source of misery and of discord; the contented
would be no less content, while the unhappy would be relieved of their
unhappiness; thus the change would injure no one, while it would benefit
many.</p>
<p>It is a pity that there is no way of obtaining the general feminine view
of the subject of marriage and divorce; women who study, who form
independent opinions are—so far as my experience goes—unanimous
in their desire to see the English laws altered; advanced thinkers of both
sexes are generally, one might say universally, in favour of change. To
those who think that women, if polled to-morrow, would vote for a
continuance of the present state of things, may be recommended the
following passage from Mrs. Mill: "Women, it is said, do not desire, do
not seek what is called their emancipation. On the contrary, they
generally disown such claims when made in their behalf, and fall with <i>acharnement</i>
upon any one of themselves who identifies herself with their common cause.
Supposing the fact to be true in the fullest extent ever asserted, if it
proves that European women ought to remain as they are, it proves exactly
the same with respect to Asiatic women; for they too, instead of murmuring
at their seclusion, and at the restraint imposed upon them, pride
themselves on it, and are astonished at the effrontery of women who
receive visits from male acquaintances, and are seen in the streets
unveiled. Habits of submission make men as well as women servile-minded.
The vast population of Asia do not desire or value, probably would not
accept, political liberty, nor the savages of the forest, civilization;
which does not prove that either of those things is undesirable for them,
or that they will not, at some future time, enjoy it. Custom hardens human
beings to any kind of degradation, by deadening the part of their nature
which would resist it. And the case of women is, in this respect, even a
peculiar one, for no other inferior caste that we have heard of have been
taught to regard their degradation as their honour." Mr. Conway considers
that changed circumstances would rapidly cause women to be favourable to
the proposed alteration: "Am I told," he remarks, "that woman dreads the
easy divorce? Naturally, for the prejudices and arrangements of society
have not been adapted to the easy divorce. Let her know that, under the
changed sentiment which shall follow changed law, she will meet with
sympathy where now she would encounter suspicion; let her know that she
will, if divorced from one she loves not, have only her fair share of the
burdens entailed by the original mistake; and she who of all persons
suffers most if the home be false will welcome the freer marriage" ("The
Earthward Pilgrimage," p. 289).</p>
<p>Both in theory and in practice advanced thinkers have claimed facility of
divorce. John Milton, in his essay on "Divorce," complains that "the
misinterpreting of Scripture... hath changed the blessing of matrimony not
seldom into a familiar and co-inhabiting mischiefe; at least into a
drooping and disconsolate household captivitie, without refuge or
redemption" (p. 2), and in his Puritan fashion he remarks that because of
this "doubtles by the policy of the devill that gracious ordinance becomes
insupportable," so that men avoid it and plunge into debauchery. Arguing
that marriage is not to be regarded merely as a legitimate kind of sexual
intercourse, but rather as a union of mind and feeling, Milton says: "That
indisposition, unfitness, or contrariety of mind, arising from a cause in
nature unchangable, hindring and ever likely to hinder the main benefits
of conjugall society, which are solace and peace, is a greater reason of
divorce than natural frigidity, especially if there be no children, and
that there be mutual consent" (p. 5). Luther, before Milton, held the same
liberal views. Mary Wolstonecraft acted on the same theory in her own
life, and her daughter was united to the poet Shelley while Shelley's
first wife was living, no legal divorce having severed the original
marriage. Richard Carlile's second marriage was equally illegal. In our
own days the union of George Henry Lewes and George Eliot has struck the
key-note of the really moral marriage. Mary Wolstonecraft was unhappy in
her choice, but in all the other cases the happiest results accrued. It
needs considerable assurance to brand these great names with immorality,
as all those must do who denounce as immoral unions which are at present
illegal.</p>
<p>In the whole of the arguments put forward in the above pages there is not
one word which is aimed at real marriage, at the faithful and durable
union of two individuals of opposite sexes—a union originated in and
maintained by love alone. Rather, to quote Milton once more, is reverence
for marriage the root of the reform I urge: he who "thinks it better to
part than to live sadly and injuriously to that cherfull covnant (for not
to be belov'd and yet retain'd, is the greatest injury to a gentle
spirit), he I say who therefore seeks to part, is one who highly honours
the married life, and would not stain it; and the reasons which now move
him to divorce, are equal to the best of those that could first warrant
him to marry" (p. 10). In the advocacy of such views marriage is elevated,
not degraded; no countenance is given to those who would fain destroy the
idea of the durable union between one man and one woman. Monogamy appears
to me to be the result of civilization, of personal dignity, of cultured
feeling; loyalty of one man to one woman is, to me, the highest sexual
ideal. The more civilized the nature the more durable and exclusive does
the marriage union become; in the lower ranges of animal life difference
of sex is enough to excite passion: there is no individuality of of
choice. Among savages it is much the same: it is the female, not the
woman, who is loved, although the savage rises higher than the lower
brutes, and is attracted by individual beauty. The civilised man and woman
need more than sex-difference and beauty of form; they seek satisfaction
for mind, heart, and tastes as well as for body; each portion the complex
nature requires its answer in its mate. Hence it arises that true marriage
is exclusive, and that prostitution is revolting to the noble of both
sexes, since in prostitution love is shorn of his fairest attributes, and
passion, which is only his wings, is made the sole representative of the
divinity. The fleeting connections supposed by some Free Love theorists
are steps backward and not forward; they offer no possibility of home, no
education of the character, no guarantee for the training of the children.
The culture both of father and of mother, of the two natures of which its
own is the resultant, is necessary to the healthy development of the
child; it cannot be deprived of either without injury to its full and
perfect growth.</p>
<p>But just as true marriage is invaluable, so is unreal marriage
deteriorating in its effects on all concerned: therefore, where mistake
has been made, it is important to the gravest interests of society that
such mistake should be readily remediable, without injury to the character
of either of those concerned in it. Freed from the union which injures
both, the man and woman may seek for their fit helpmeets, and in happy
marriages may become joyful servants of humanity, worthy parents of the
citizens of to-morrow. Men and women must know conjugal, before they can
know true parental, love; each must see in the child the features of the
beloved ere the perfect circle of love can be complete. Husband and wife
bound in closest, most durable and yet most eager union, children
springing as flowers from the dual stem of love, home where the creators
train the lives they have given—such will be the marriage of the
future. The loathsome details of the Divorce Court will no longer pollute
our papers; the public will no longer be called in to gloat over the ruins
of desecrated love; society will be purified from sexual vice; men and
women will rise to the full royalty of their humanity, and hand in hand
tread life's pathways, trustful instead of suspicious, free instead of
enslaved, bound by love instead of by law.</p>
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<p>Printed by Annie Besant and Charles Bradlaugh,</p>
<p>28, Stone-cutter Street, London, E.C.</p>
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