<h2> LETTER IV </h2>
<h3> MISS CLARISSA HARLOWE, TO MISS HOWE JAN. 15. </h3>
<p>Such, my dear, was the situation Mr. Lovelace and I were in when my
brother arrived from Scotland.</p>
<p>The moment Mr. Lovelace's visits were mentioned to him, he, without either
hesitation or apology, expressed his disapprobation of them. He found
great flaws in his character; and took the liberty to say in so many
words, that he wondered how it came into the heads of his uncles to
encourage such a man for either of his sisters: At the same time returning
his thanks to my father for declining his consent till he arrived, in such
a manner, I thought, as a superior would do, when he commended an inferior
for having well performed his duty in his absence.</p>
<p>He justified his avowed inveteracy by common fame, and by what he had
known of him at college; declaring, that he had ever hated him; ever
should hate him; and would never own him for a brother, or me for a
sister, if I married him.</p>
<p>That early antipathy I have heard accounted for in this manner:</p>
<p>Mr. Lovelace was always noted for his vivacity and courage; and no less,
it seems, for the swift and surprising progress he made in all parts of
literature: for diligence in his studies in the hours of study, he had
hardly his equal. This it seems was his general character at the
university; and it gained him many friends among the more learned; while
those who did not love him, feared him, by reason of the offence his
vivacity made him too ready to give, and of the courage he shewed in
supporting the offence when given; which procured him as many followers as
he pleased among the mischievous sort.—No very amiable character,
you'll say, upon the whole.</p>
<p>But my brother's temper was not more happy. His native haughtiness could
not bear a superiority so visible; and whom we fear more than love, we are
not far from hating: and having less command of his passions than the
other, he was evermore the subject of his perhaps indecent ridicule: so
that every body, either from love or fear, siding with his antagonist, he
had a most uneasy time of it while both continued in the same college.—It
was the less wonder therefore that a young man who is not noted for the
gentleness of his temper, should resume an antipathy early begun, and so
deeply rooted.</p>
<p>He found my sister, who waited but for the occasion, ready to join him in
his resentments against the man he hated. She utterly disclaimed all
manner of regard for him: 'Never liked him at all:—His estate was
certainly much incumbered: it was impossible it should be otherwise; so
entirely devoted as he was to his pleasures. He kept no house; had no
equipage: Nobody pretended that he wanted pride: the reason therefore was
easy to be guessed at.' And then did she boast of, and my brother praised
her for, refusing him: and both joined on all occasions to depreciate him,
and not seldom made the occasions; their displeasure against him causing
every subject to run into this, if it began not with it.</p>
<p>I was not solicitous to vindicate him when I was not joined in their
reflection. I told them I did not value him enough to make a difference in
the family on his account: and as he was supposed to have given much cause
for their ill opinion of him, I thought he ought to take the consequence
of his own faults.</p>
<p>Now and then indeed, when I observed that their vehemence carried them
beyond all bounds of probability in their charges against him, I thought
it but justice to put in a word for him. But this only subjected me to
reproach, as having a prepossession in his favour which I would not own.—So
that, when I could not change the subject, I used to retire either to my
music, or to my closet.</p>
<p>Their behaviour to him, when they could not help seeing him, was very cold
and disobliging; but as yet not directly affrontive. For they were in
hopes of prevailing upon my father to forbid his visits. But as there was
nothing in his behaviour, that might warrant such a treatment of a man of
his birth and fortune, they succeeded not: And then they were very earnest
with me to forbid them. I asked, what authority I had to take such a step
in my father's house; and when my behaviour to him was so distant, that he
seemed to be as much the guest of any other person of the family,
themselves excepted, as mine?—In revenge, they told me, that it was
cunning management between us; and that we both understood one another
better than we pretended to do. And at last they gave such a loose to
their passions, all of a sudden* as I may say, that instead of
withdrawing, as they used to do when he came, they threw themselves in his
way purposely to affront him.</p>
<p>* The reason of this their more openly shown animosity is<br/>
given in Letter XIII.<br/></p>
<p>Mr. Lovelace, you may believe, very ill brooked this: but nevertheless
contented himself to complain of it to me: in high terms, however, telling
me, that but for my sake my brother's treatment of him was not to be
borne.</p>
<p>I was sorry for the merit this gave him in his own opinion with me: and
the more, as some of the affronts he received were too flagrant to be
excused: But I told him, that I was determined not to fall out with my
brother, if I could help it, whatever faults he had: and since they could
not see one another with temper, should be glad that he would not throw
himself in my brother's way; and I was sure my brother would not seek him.</p>
<p>He was very much nettled at this answer: But said, he must bear his
affronts if I would have it so. He had been accused himself of violence in
his temper; but he hoped to shew on this occasion that he had a command of
his passions which few young men, so highly provoked, would be able to
shew; and doubted not but it would be attributed to a proper motive by a
person of my generosity and penetration.</p>
<p>My brother had just before, with the approbation of my uncles, employed a
person related to a discharged bailiff or steward of Lord M. who had had
the management of some part of Mr. Lovelace's affairs (from which he was
also dismissed by him) to inquire into his debts, after his companions,
into his amours, and the like.</p>
<p>My aunt Hervey, in confidence, gave me the following particulars of what
the man had said of him.</p>
<p>'That he was a generous landlord: that he spared nothing for solid and
lasting improvements upon his estate; and that he looked into his own
affairs, and understood them: that he had been very expensive when abroad;
and contracted a large debt (for he made no secret of his affairs); yet
chose to limit himself to an annual sum, and to decline equipage, in order
to avoid being obliged to his uncle and aunts; from whom he might have
what money he pleased; but that he was very jealous of their controul; had
often quarrels with them; and treated them so freely, that they were all
afraid of him. However, that his estate was never mortgaged, as my brother
had heard it was; his credit was always high; and the man believed, he was
by this time near upon, if not quite, clear of the world.</p>
<p>'He was a sad gentleman, he said, as to women:—If his tenants had
pretty daughters, they chose to keep them out of his sight. He believed he
kept no particular mistress; for he had heard newelty, that was the man's
word, was every thing with him. But for his uncle's and aunt's teazings,
the man fancied he would not think of marriage: he was never known to be
disguised with liquor; but was a great plotter, and a great writer: That
he lived a wild life in town, by what he had heard: had six or seven
companions as bad as himself; whom now and then he brought down with him;
and the country was always glad when they went up again. He would have it,
that although passionate, he was good-humoured; loved as well to take a
jest as to give one; and would rally himself upon occasion the freest of
any man he ever knew.'</p>
<p>This was his character from an enemy; for, as my aunt observed, every
thing the man said commendably of him came grudgingly, with a must needs
say—to do him justice, &c. while the contrary was delivered with
a free good-will. And this character, as a worse was expected, though this
was bad enough, not answering the end of inquiring after it, my brother
and sister were more apprehensive than before, that his address would be
encouraged, since the worst part of it was known, or supposed, when he was
first introduced to my sister.</p>
<p>But, with regard to myself, I must observe in his disfavour, that,
notwithstanding the merit he wanted to make with me for his patience upon
my brother's ill-treatment of him, I owed him no compliments for trying to
conciliate with him. Not that I believe it would have signified any thing
if he had made ever such court either to him or to my sister: yet one
might have expected from a man of his politeness, and from his
pretensions, you know, that he would have been willing to try. Instead of
which, he shewed such a contempt both of my brother and my sister,
especially my brother, as was construed into a defiance of them. And for
me to have hinted at an alteration in his behaviour to my brother, was an
advantage I knew he would have been proud of; and which therefore I had no
mind to give him. But I doubted not that having so very little
encouragement from any body, his pride would soon take fire, and he would
of himself discontinue his visits, or go to town; where, till he came
acquainted with our family, he used chiefly to reside: And in this latter
case he had no reason to expect, that I would receive, much less answer,
his Letters: the occasions which had led me to receive any of his, being
by this time over.</p>
<p>But my brother's antipathy would not permit him to wait for such an event;
and after several excesses, which Mr. Lovelace still returned with
contempt, and a haughtiness too much like that of the aggressor, my
brother took upon himself to fill up the door-way once when he came, as if
to oppose his entrance: And upon his asking for me, demanded, what his
business was with his sister?</p>
<p>The other, with a challenging air, as my brother says, told him, he would
answer a gentleman any question; but he wished that Mr. James Harlowe, who
had of late given himself high airs, would remember that he was not now at
college.</p>
<p>Just then the good Dr. Lewen, who frequently honours me with a visit of
conversation, as he is pleased to call it, and had parted with me in my
own parlour, came to the door: and hearing the words, interposed; both
having their hands upon their swords: and telling Mr. Lovelace where I
was, he burst by my brother, to come to me; leaving him chafing, he said,
like a hunted boar at bay.</p>
<p>This alarmed us all. My father was pleased to hint to Mr. Lovelace, that
he wished he would discontinue his visits for the peace-sake of the
family: And I, by his command, spoke a great deal plainer.</p>
<p>But Mr. Lovelace is a man not easily brought to give up his purpose,
especially in a point wherein he pretends his heart is so much engaged:
and no absolute prohibition having been given, things went on for a little
while as before: for I saw plainly, that to have denied myself to his
visits (which however I declined receiving as often as I could) was to
bring forward some desperate issue between the two; since the offence so
readily given on one side was brooked by the other only out of
consideration to me.</p>
<p>And thus did my brother's rashness lay me under an obligation where I
would least have owed it.</p>
<p>The intermediate proposals of Mr. Symmes and Mr. Mullins, both (in turn)
encouraged by my brother, induced him to be more patient for a while, as
nobody thought me over-forward in Mr. Lovelace's favour; for he hoped that
he should engage my father and uncles to approve of the one or the other
in opposition to the man he hated. But when he found that I had interest
enough to disengage myself from the addresses of those gentlemen, as I had
(before he went to Scotland, and before Mr. Lovelace visited here) of Mr.
Wyerley's, he then kept no measures: and first set himself to upbraid me
for supposed prepossession, which he treated as if it were criminal; and
then to insult Mr. Lovelace in person, at Mr. Edward Symmes's, the brother
of the other Symmes, two miles off; and no good Dr. Lewen being there to
interpose, the unhappy rencounter followed. My brother was disarmed, as
you have heard; and on being brought home, and giving us ground to suppose
he was much worse hurt than he really was, and a fever ensuing, every one
flamed out; and all was laid at my door.</p>
<p>Mr. Lovelace for three days together sent twice each day to inquire after
my brother's health; and although he received rude and even shocking
returns, he thought fit on the fourth day to make in person the same
inquiries; and received still greater incivilities from my two uncles, who
happened to be both there. My father also was held by force from going to
him with his sword in his hand, although he had the gout upon him.</p>
<p>I fainted away with terror, seeing every one so violent, and hearing Mr.
Lovelace swear that he would not depart till he had made my uncles ask his
pardon for the indignities he had received at their hands; a door being
held fast locked between him and them. My mother all the time was praying
and struggling to with-hold my father in the great parlour. Meanwhile my
sister, who had treated Mr. Lovelace with virulence, came in to me, and
insulted me as fast as I recovered. But when Mr. Lovelace was told how ill
I was, he departed; nevertheless vowing revenge.</p>
<p>He was ever a favourite with our domestics. His bounty to them, and having
always something facetious to say to each, had made them all of his party:
and on this occasion they privately blamed every body else, and reported
his calm and gentlemanly behaviour (till the provocations given him ran
very high) in such favourable terms, that those reports, and my
apprehensions of the consequence of this treatment, induced me to read a
letter he sent me that night; and, it being written in the most respectful
terms (offering to submit the whole to my decision, and to govern himself
entirely by my will) to answer it some days after.</p>
<p>To this unhappy necessity was owing our renewed correspondence, as I may
call it; yet I did not write till I had informed myself from Mr. Symmes's
brother, that he was really insulted into the act of drawing his sword by
my brother's repeatedly threatening (upon his excusing himself out of
regard to me) to brand me ir he did not; and, by all the inquiry I could
make, that he was again the sufferer from my uncles in a more violent
manner than I have related.</p>
<p>The same circumstances were related to my father and other relations by
Mr. Symmes; but they had gone too far in making themselves parties to the
quarrel either to retract or forgive; and I was forbidden to correspond
with him, or to be seen a moment in his company.</p>
<p>One thing however I can say, but that in confidence, because my mother
commanded me not to mention it:—That, expressing her apprehension of
the consequences of the indignities offered to Mr. Lovelace, she told me,
she would leave it to my prudence to do all I could to prevent the
impending mischief on one side.</p>
<p>I am obliged to break off. But I believe I have written enough to answer
very fully all that you have required of me. It is not for a child to seek
to clear her own character, or to justify her actions, at the expense of
the most revered ones: yet, as I know that the account of all those
further proceedings by which I may be affected, will be interesting to so
dear a friend (who will communicate to others no more than what is
fitting) I will continue to write, as I have opportunity, as minutely as
we are used to write to each other. Indeed I have no delight, as I have
often told you, equal to that which I take in conversing with you by
letter, when I cannot in person.</p>
<p>Mean time, I cannot help saying, that I am exceedingly concerned to find,
that I am become so much the public talk as you tell me I am. Your kind,
your precautionary regard for my fame, and the opportunity you have given
me to tell my own story previous to any new accident (which heaven avert!)
is so like the warm friend I have ever found in my dear Miss Howe, that,
with redoubled obligation, you bind me to be</p>
<p>Your ever grateful and affectionate, CLARISSA HARLOWE.</p>
<p>Copy of the requested Preamble to the clauses in her Grandfather's Will:
inclosed in the preceding Letter.</p>
<p>As the particular estate I have mentioned and described above, is
principally of my own raising: as my three sons have been uncommonly
prosperous; and are very rich: the eldest by means of the unexpected
benefits he reaps from his new found mines; the second, by what has, as
unexpectedly, fallen in to him on the deaths of several relations of his
present wife, the worthy daughter by both sides of very honourable
families; over and above the very large portion which he received with her
in marriage: my son Antony by his East-India traffic, and successful
voyages: as furthermore my grandson James will be sufficiently provided
for by his grandmother Lovell's kindness to him; who, having no near
relations, hath assured me, that she hath, as well by deed of gift as by
will, left him both her Scottish and English estates: for never was there
a family more prosperous in all its branches, blessed be God therefore:
and as my said son James will very probably make it up to my
grand-daughter Arabella; to whom I intend no disrespect; nor have reason;
for she is a very hopeful and dutiful child: and as my sons, John and
Antony, seem not inclined to a married life; so that my son James is the
only one who has children, or is likely to have any. For all these
reasons; and because my dearest and beloved grand-daughter Clarissa hath
been from her infancy a matchless young creature in her duty to me, and
admired by all who knew her, as a very extraordinary child; I must
therefore take the pleasure of considering her as my own peculiar child;
and this without intending offence; and I hope it will not be taken as
any, since my son James can bestow his favours accordingly, and in greater
proportion, upon his son James, and upon his daughter Arabella.—</p>
<p>These, I say, are the reasons which move me to dispose of the
above-described estate in the precious child's favour; who is the delight
of my old age: and, I verily think, has contributed, by her amiable duty
and kind and tender regards, to prolong my life.</p>
<p>Wherefore it is my express will and commandment, and I enjoin my said
three sons, John, James, and Antony, and my grandson James, and my
grand-daughter Arabella, as they value my blessing, and will regard my
memory, and would wish their own last wills and desires to be fulfilled by
their survivors, that they will not impugn or contest the following
bequests and devises in favour of my said grand-daughter Clarissa,
although they should not be strictly conformable to law or to the forms
thereof; nor suffer them to be controverted or disputed on any pretence
whatsoever.</p>
<p>And in this confidence, &c. &c. &c.</p>
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